How to baptize a child correctly, what rules to follow.

In every child's life, the most important people are his parents. After all, it is parents who are the people who give us life, love, care and attention. This fact is indisputable and is known to all of us from childhood. However, one should not forget about spiritual parents or, as we used to call them, about godparents.

The question of the choice of godparents and the baptismal procedure itself has always been and remains relevant, since both the godfather and the godmother are given to the child alone and for life. Moreover, it is the spiritual parents who face the most responsible task - to bring up the baby in accordance with the generally accepted norms of morality and, of course, faith. Well, today we will talk in detail about all the nuances of the baptismal procedure and the choice of godparents, so that you no longer have to worry about this.

What are godparents for?

How many people know why the baby needs godparents? How many people think about this question? Unfortunately no.

• Most couples, choosing godparents for their children, think about completely different things.
• It is customary for us to take people we know well as godfathers. Most often they are friends or relatives. Not the last factor when choosing godparents is their financial condition, while you need to pay attention to completely different things.
• I must say that to talk about the question: "What are godparents for?" stands after the answer to the question: "Why baptize a child at all?" Agree, it is quite logical. This is where we start.
• According to Orthodox beliefs, every person comes into this world with original sin. It is about the violation of that very prohibition by Adam and Eve. So this original sin is a kind of congenital disease, without getting rid of which, the baby will not be able to grow up healthy and happy.
• It is possible to remove this sin only by accepting faith. Many parents try to baptize their baby as soon as possible, but in principle they do not understand why it is necessary to do it this way. Here is the answer for you, they baptize children as soon as possible so that they are with God, and he endowed them with all kinds of benefits.

Now we turn to the question, why do we need godparents:

• As a rule, every person is baptized almost immediately after birth. Due to their age, the baby, and, in principle, the teenager cannot objectively assess the importance of this step, as, incidentally, they cannot follow this faith, because they simply do not know it.
• This is why we all need godparents. Godfathers perceive babies directly from the font and become full-fledged spiritual parents (godfathers, receivers).
• Second parents should teach the child to live "by the rules." In this case, it is not so much about the rules of life in society, but about the foundations of the Orthodox faith. The godparents should instruct the baby on the right path, take care of him and love him like their own child, and in case the godson stumbles, lend him a helping hand. Also, recipients should always pray for their godson and ask the Lord to be supportive of him.
• Based on the foregoing, we can conclude that when choosing godparents for your child, you need to look not at the availability of money and opportunities for them, but at what kind of life these people lead and whether they are actually believers.

How to choose a godfather and godmother for a child: the rules, who can be a godfather, mother, and from what age?

When choosing a godfather for a baby, few people think about what he should be like. We are more inclined to evaluate the future recipient according to other criteria: a friend, relative, responsible or not, lives in this city and can often see a child or not, etc. However, the church sets its own rules and they must be followed.

IMPORTANT: Of course, the godfather must be baptized. This condition is mandatory and not subject to any discussion. After all, how can an unbaptized person who does not believe in God and, accordingly, does not understand the commandments by which everyone who comes to this earth should live, teach this to a small child? The answer is obvious.

• Moreover, the recipient must be churched. However, in our time, few people even know the meaning of this word. In simple terms, a person who is not only baptized, but also really believes, lives like a Christian and tries to follow all the foundations of his faith is considered to be church-going.

• With regard to age. There are no clear boundaries here, but the church is inclined to believe that the recipient must be of age. Why is that? The point here is not 18 years, but the fact that adults are considered to be old enough and responsible for such a serious step. By the way, we are not talking about civil adulthood, but about the church. Despite this, you can become a godfather earlier, but this issue needs to be discussed with the priest, who will give permission for this.

The godmother should be chosen in the same way as the godfather:

• A spiritual mother must necessarily be a believing Orthodox Christian; accordingly, she must be baptized.
• It is also necessary to consider how a woman lives. Does she believe in God, does she go to church, can she raise the baby as a believing Orthodox Christian.
• In addition to church restrictions, parents-to-be should pay attention to other things. When choosing a godmother for your baby, you must understand that in fact this woman will be the second mother for your child and, accordingly, you must completely trust her.
• You should not take unfamiliar or dubious people as godparents for the baby. Godmothers should be responsible and trusted people.

Who shouldn't be taken as godparents to your child?

If you are already very concerned about this issue, then we recommend that you consult with the priest, he, like no one else, knows the answers to all your questions. However, generally speaking, the church forbids taking such people as godparents:

1. A monk or a nun. Despite this, the priest can become the child's recipient.
2. Native parents. It would seem, well, who else but the parents themselves can give the child the best upbringing and help? But no, parents are strictly forbidden to baptize their babies.
3. A woman and a man who are married. The Church not only disapproves, but strictly forbids ignoring this rule. Because people who baptize a baby become relatives at the spiritual level and, accordingly, they will not be able to lead a worldly life after that. It is also forbidden to marry already held godfathers - this is considered a huge sin.
4. It is clear that people who suffer from mental disorders and are seriously ill cannot be taken as receivers.
5. And one more rule, which we spoke about briefly earlier. Age of the godparents. In addition to coming of age, there are two more age thresholds: a girl must reach 14 years old, and a guy - 15. In principle, there is no need to talk a lot about this condition, after all, it is already clear that a child cannot raise a child, and therefore take such age people as godparents. categories are not allowed.

How many times can you be a godfather, godmother? Can you refuse to be a godfather, godmother?

The Church does not give a clear answer to the question of how many times a child can be baptized, and this is quite logical:

• Receiving is a very big responsibility and the more children you baptize, the more this responsibility becomes. That is why a person must answer such a question to himself. Ask yourself the question: "Will I be able to give this godson as much attention as it takes?", "Will I have enough spiritual and physical strength to raise another child?" ... That's when you honestly give yourself answers to such questions, then you will understand whether you can baptize another baby or you will have to refuse.
• By the way, many ask the question: "Is it possible to refuse to be a godfather, godmother?" The answer is that it is possible, moreover, it is even necessary if you do not want to do this or cannot for some reason of your own.

• A person who was offered to baptize a baby must clearly understand that after the Sacrament of Baptism, he will become a native person for the child, his second parent, and this implies a tremendous responsibility. It's not just to come to a birthday, to wish you a Happy New Year or Saint Nicholas, no, it means to constantly participate in the life of the baby, to develop him, to help him in all his endeavors. Not ready for such a responsibility? Refuse right away, because this is not considered a sin and something shameful, but to become a receiver and not fulfill your direct responsibilities is a church sin, for which God will certainly ask.

Is it possible to baptize a child without godparents, godmother, godfather, with one godfather?

In ancient times, only one recipient baptized a child. Boys - a man, girls - a woman. This is due to the fact that once upon a time everyone was baptized as adults and, accordingly, in order not to be ashamed, they took a person of the same sex as their godparents.

• Now, when baptism occurs at that stage, while the baby is still completely unintelligent, two recipients of different sex can baptize him at once.
• At the request of the parents, either only a man or only a woman can baptize a newborn. For boys, this is a man, for girls, respectively, a woman. The Church does not prohibit such a practice, moreover, from the beginning everything was done in this way.
• There are situations when a parent wants to perform the Sacrament of Baptism without any recipients at all, and this is quite possible. In this case, they baptize without godparents at all. However, initially this nuance needs to be discussed with the priest, so that later you will not have any surprises.

Is it possible to be a godfather, godmother for two or more children in the same family?

The Church gives a very succinct answer to this question. It is possible and necessary if you were offered it and you want it. There are no prohibitions to be a godfather / godmother for two children in a family at once, and this phenomenon is quite common. The main thing, when making such a decision, is to objectively assess your capabilities and if you are ready for such responsibility - go ahead.

Can a pregnant, unmarried woman be godmother to someone else's child?

How many controversies this question raises, and superstitions, by the way, too:

• For some reason, it is generally accepted in our country that a pregnant woman has no right to baptize a baby. However, this statement is completely unfounded. The Church in no way prohibits an expectant mother from becoming a recipient of a newborn; moreover, it is generally accepted that it is even beneficial for a pregnant woman. Therefore, you should not believe in prejudices, if you are faced with such a situation and do not know how to do the right thing, just contact the church, there they will explain everything to you in detail.
• The same goes for an unmarried woman. The fact that a woman is not married does not mean in any way that she will not be able to be a good receptive for the baby.

Can a grandfather, a grandmother to a grandson, or a granddaughter be a godfather and godmother? Can a sibling, cousin, sibling, cousin be a godfather, godmother of a sister, brother?

Most often, we choose our friends and acquaintances as godfathers, but some people express a desire for their children to be baptized by their relatives.

• The Orthodox faith does not prohibit grandparents from becoming godparents to their grandchildren. Moreover, purely from the point of view of upbringing, this is very good. Grandmother and grandfather lived their lives, have a rich life experience, and grandchildren are sacred for them, so someone who, and they will definitely be able to raise a newborn in accordance with all the rules and foundations of Christianity.
• The baptismal prohibitions did not apply to the brothers / sisters of the newborn baby. The Church allows and approves the baptism of children by their siblings and cousins.

• Everyone knows that younger children always want to be like their older brothers and sisters and imitate them in every possible way. In this case, the subject of imitation will have to help his godson in every possible way and show only a positive example.
• The only thing worth thinking about is the age of possible godparents. After all, the receivers must be responsible and relatively experienced people.

Can a husband and wife have godparents with one child? Can godparents get married?

The church is very strict on this issue. It is strictly forbidden for a married couple to baptize a child. Moreover, future godfathers are also prohibited from marrying in the future. In simple words, between people who baptize the same baby there should only be a spiritual connection (godparents), but not "earthly" (marriage). It cannot be otherwise in this case.

Conversation before baptism for godparents: what does the father ask before baptism?

Few people know, but before the Sacrament of Baptism itself, future recipients should go to special talks. In practice, we can see that sometimes such conversations are not held at all, or they are held, but not the number of times that is necessary.

• As a rule, during such conversations, the priest explains to the future godparents the basics of the Orthodox faith, talks about what responsibilities they will have in relation to the godson.
• Those who do not know the basics of Christianity are advised to read the Holy Scriptures. This will help future spiritual parents to better understand faith and, accordingly, understand what is required of them in raising a baby.
• The priest also talks about the fact that the recipients must endure a 3-day fast, and then confess their sins and receive the Holy Communion.
• Directly at the Sacrament of Baptism, the priest asks the future godparents about whether they believe in God, whether they renounce the unclean and whether they are ready to be receivers.

Christening of a boy and a girl: requirements, rules, responsibilities and what you need to know for a godmother?

If you were offered to become the godmother of a child, it is a great honor and responsibility. Therefore, you should know the following rules and requirements for you:

• Of course, the main requirement for a woman who will baptize a child is to be baptized and sincerely believe in God.
• Further, a few days before the celebration itself, you need to confess and receive communion. It is also worth refraining from any carnal pleasures. And besides all this, you should know the "Symbol of Faith" prayer. You will read this prayer at baptism only if you baptize the girl.

Your responsibilities to the baby as a godmother:

• The godmother takes responsibility for raising the child
• Should teach him to live in accordance with Christian rules and foundations
• I must pray for him before God and help the baby in everything
• Also, the godmother should take the child to church, do not forget about his birthday and baptism
• And, of course, should be a good example to him.

What else does a godmother need to know besides this? You can add, perhaps, only responsibilities regarding organizational issues:

• It is generally accepted that it is the spiritual mother who should bring the child a kryzhma (a special baptismal towel) and a baptismal set, which, as a rule, consists of a shirt, a hat and socks, or of pants, a jacket, a cap and socks.
• It is important to know that the kryzhma must be new, it is in this towel that the newly baptized child will be put by the father. This attribute is a kind of protection for the child and can then be used as a talisman.

Christening of a boy and a girl: requirements, rules, responsibilities and what you need to know for a godfather?

It is also important for future godparents to know certain rules and responsibilities associated with the baptism of a baby:

• Just like with mom, the godfather must be an Orthodox Christian and be baptized.
• The main duty of a spiritual dad is to be a worthy example, it is most important if the child to be baptized is a boy. He must see before him a worthy example of male behavior. Also, the godfather should take the godson to church and teach him to live in peace with all the people around him.
• It is accepted that the future recipient should buy the baby a cross and a chain or a thread on which the cross can be worn. Also, it will not be superfluous to purchase a baptismal icon. It is the godfather who must pay all the baptismal expenses, if any.
• It is better to solve all these worries and troubles in advance, so that later you do not have to do everything at the last moment.

Christening of a boy and a girl: what should a godmother do at a christening?

Immediately it is necessary to clarify that the future godmother must be present at the girl's christening, but the godfather can be present in absentia.

• Directly at the christening itself, it is the godmother who will perceive the goddaughter after immersion in the font. Initially, the godfather will most likely hold the baby.
• After the child is given to the godmother, she must dress the girl in a new outfit.
• Further, the recipient holds the baby and while the priest reads prayers, and when she performs the anointing.
• Sometimes priests ask to read a prayer, but more often they do it themselves.

• With the boy, everything will be the same, but after dipping him into the font, he will be handed over to the hands of the godfather. Also, when a boy is baptized, he must be brought behind the altar (after 40 days from birth).

Christening of a boy and a girl: what should a godfather do at a christening?

The duties of a godfather are not much different from those of a godmother:

• A spiritual dad can also hold a toddler.
• After the priest has received answers to all the traditionally asked questions, the recipient may be asked to say a special prayer. But again, most likely the father himself will do it.
• The godfather helps to undress the child before immersion in some water, and then dress. If the child who is baptized is a girl, then after this ceremony she will be transferred to the arms of the godmother, if the boy, then the godfather will hold her.

Is it possible to change godparents, godfather, godmother to a child, boy, girl ?

All people come to this world only once, exactly the same number of times they are allowed to be baptized.

• The Church forbids changing godparents, moreover, in fact there is no such possibility, because there is no such rite.
• That is why, more than once, attention has been paid to the fact that baptizing a child is a huge responsibility, which afterwards cannot be simply taken and abandoned.
• Godparents do not change under any circumstances. Even if over time you stopped communicating with the godfathers, even if they left and cannot often see the baby, they still remain his godparents and are responsible for him.

How many godparents should a child have, can there be two godmothers and two godfathers?

We have already discussed this issue a little earlier:

• Nowadays, two people are most often taken as godparents: the godfather and the godmother. However, you can do it differently.
• You can only take a godfather or a godmother as a godfather. At the same time, it is worth remembering that for a newborn baby, it is more important to have a recipient, but for a boy, it is still a recipient.
• If for some reason you do not want to take godparents at all, well, or you simply have no one to take, then you can baptize the child without any supporters at all.

• Moreover, you can ask the father to become the godfather of your baby, but you should take into account the fact that it is unlikely that a person who is distant from your family will be able to pay due attention to the child.
• Whether there can be 2 godmothers or 2 godfathers is a rhetorical question. This must be clarified directly in the church in which you want to baptize the child and with the priest who will conduct the ceremony. Such cases are known, but different churches, no matter how strange it may sound, may give you different answers.

Can a Muslim be the godfather of an Orthodox Christian?

The answer to this question is quite obvious. Of course not. After all, how can a Muslim teach a child the Orthodox faith? No way. The only thing a Muslim can do is to stand in church during the Sacrament of Baptism, if it is performed on his relative.

As you can see, the issue of baptism and the choice of godparents is very relevant and actively discussed. There are many rules and prejudices that in our time for some reason stand on the same level with church customs, which is why if you do not know how to act correctly in a given situation - contact the church, there they will explain in detail all the points of interest to you.

Video: On Baptism of Infants and the Modern Way of Life

The sacrament of baptism is awe-inspiring for most people. Even not deeply religious parents necessarily baptize the baby so that the child is under God's protection.

Baptism is a ritual that requires little preparation. It is important to know when to baptize a newborn, what to prepare for going to church, whom to take as godparents (named parents). Learn more about the traditional Christian rite.

Most parents try to provide protection to the tiny man early, carry out the sacrament of baptism until the baby is 1 year old. Most often, the ceremony is held on the 40th day after the birth of the child. Sometimes the sacrament takes place later, if the baby is sick, the weather is so windy and cold that the baby can easily catch a cold.

Take a note:

• you should not postpone the ceremony for a long time: newborn babies up to one year old behave calmly during the sacrament, most of them sleep;
• after a year and a half, the child often turns around, is capricious, afraid of incomprehensible smells, sounds, a lot of strangers, the actions of a priest;
• with such behavior, the special atmosphere inherent in the traditional rite disappears: all efforts are aimed at calming the crying baby;
• whims, screams, admonitions of parents often wake up other children if the ceremony takes place for several couples;
• consider an important point, ensure maximum calmness during the ritual.

In some cases, the priest does not recommend postponing baptism. Perform the traditional ceremony as soon as possible if the baby is restless, weak, prematurely born. In case of a serious illness, priests also advise to baptize the baby early.

Baby baptism: what you need to know? Helpful hints:

• any day is suitable for the ceremony. Often, young parents choose Saturday and Sunday, when many close people and friends of the weekend can come and share the joy;
• On major church holidays, christening is not very convenient: a lot of people gather in the church, the child may burst into tears due to stuffiness, a large crowd of strangers. On such days, the father will not be able to devote enough time to the parents and the baby;
• if you schedule a date in advance, pay attention to a delicate nuance: Mom can be present in the temple when she does not have critical days at that moment. Choose the date of your christening taking into account an important factor.

Where to baptize a newborn

The bulk of child baptism ceremonies take place in the church. Sometimes circumstances interfere with visiting the temple: the child quickly catches a cold in crowded places, the baby is ill, is very worried, cries at the sight of strangers. What to do?

Talk to a priest whom you respect, explain the situation. The priest will take the accessories for the ceremony with him and will baptize the baby at home. Parents will need to prepare supplies for the ceremony.

Advice! In small settlements, there are often one or two churches; there is practically no choice of where to baptize a child. If you live in a big city, do not be lazy, talk with friends, ask for advice on choosing a priest. It is important to know that the Holy Father will come to the sacrament of baptism with a soul. Come to the temple in advance, talk to the priest, ask for advice on preparing for the ceremony. Find a person who is completely endearing to yourself.

Necessary purchases: traditions and rules

What is needed to baptize a child? Take a note:

• most often the cost of the ceremony, the purchase of special accessories in the church is paid by the godfather. Sometimes the parents and the godfather pay the ceremony equally. You cannot force the named dad to pay in full for the christening if the person still has a difficult financial situation;
• The godmother must bring a kryzhma - a special towel for the baptism of the child, in which the father will wrap the baby during the ceremony. Kryzhma needs to be consecrated before christening. Often, the named mother buys a teaspoon of silver (cutlery is also holy in the church);
• young parents buy little things for baptism: crosses for guests, candles, a cross for the baby. Many parents choose a gold piece, but a church cross on a satin ribbon is quite suitable;
• when baptized, the child receives a second, church name, based on the date of the ceremony. Parents should buy an icon with the face of a saint (saint) - the patron saint for the baby. Choose an icon in the church: it will be consecrated there, after the christening, the parents will take the amulet home to protect the newly baptized baby from evil forces.

How much does it cost to baptize a child? Check in advance the cost of the accessories for the ceremony: often the amount is impressive.

What outfit suits adults and kids

• women are required to have a light shawl / kerchief / thin scarf on the head. A skirt or dress should cover your knees. Deep neckline, open shoulders, too bright, provocative colors are prohibited;
• trousers and a shirt of calm tones are suitable for men. Breeches, shorts in the temple are inappropriate;
• a special baptismal set of a beautiful undershirt and a hat with a cross stitched on will suit the baby. A special set is put on the baby only for the sacrament of baptism, then kept at home, reminding of the purity of a child's soul. If you don't have a baptismal set, wear pretty things that are easy to put on and take off.

How to choose named parents

Unfortunately, parents often do not attach much importance to this moment. They are looking for someone who will agree or who the rules allow. Not always godparents - these are people who are ready at the first call of their parents to come to the rescue, to be happy for the named son or daughter.

Many choose second parents, based on the wealth of the named mothers and fathers, in the hope of expensive gifts or an invitation to visit abroad. Kind, decent people with below average income, unfortunately, are rarely seen as suitable candidates.

That is why many godparents see their named children only for birthdays, and even then, not for all. Sometimes the godparents are remembered only before preparing for the godson's wedding in order to get an expensive gift.

Important! Ideally, the named parents should be like-minded people or good friends. If you have such acquaintances or relatives in mind, invite them to christenings, entrust them to become a named father or mother. Good godparents are joy in the house. Remember about spiritual communication with the godson, and not only about the material side of the issue. Remember: the financial side tends to change for better or worse, and a good relationship often lasts for life.

Who can be god

Entrust an honorary duty:

• good friends;
• relatives whom you are glad to see in your home;
• dear aunts and uncles.

Who can't be god

Young parents should be aware that there are limitations. Traditions do not allow certain categories of relatives and friends to be invited to this responsible role.

Cannot be gods:

• baby's parents;
• children: the minimum age of the godmother is 13 years old, the godmother's age is 15 years;
• a married couple cannot be invited to become godparents for one baby;
• mental illness is a reason to refuse the help of a person who, due to pathology, is not fully aware of the extent of responsibility;
• people of other faith. Sometimes the prohibition is violated if the future godfather is a very good, kind person.

How is the ceremony

How is the baptism of a child going? The scenario of the ritual is practically the same, regardless of the location of the church (a large city or a small village). Parents, friends, relatives, future godparents should generally understand how the sacrament is performed, so that there is no confusion or awkwardness in some situations.

Basic moments:

• baptism is scheduled for a certain time, but you need to drive up to the church in advance: this way you will have time to arrange financial issues, negotiate documents for the baby;
• an important point is to properly prepare the baby for the ritual. Undress the child, wrap them naked in a canopy - a special diaper or a beautiful towel that is larger than a baby;
• the clergyman first invites the godmother with the boy in her arms to the church, the future goddaughter is carried by the man;
• then the invited guests pass inside the temple, mom comes in last. Sometimes, before reading certain prayers, Mommy waits outside;
• the priest takes the newborn in his arms. At this time, the guests repeat the prayer of renunciation of the devil;
• the next stage is the immersion of the crumbs in the font. The action takes place three times. If the baptism is carried out during the cold season, the priest can pour water from the font on the arms and legs of the baby;
• Confirmation takes place after the water ritual. The newly baptized baby receives a blessing, protection from the dark forces. To do this, on the nose, forehead, eyes, lips, ears, arms, legs and chest, the clergyman puts smears in the shape of a cross with church liquid;
• Father gives the baby to the named parents: the boy is taken by the woman, the girl is taken by the man. Now you need to wipe, dress the baby.

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The sacrament of baptism continues:

• the baby receives a pectoral cross. One of the named parents holds the baby, the second puts on a consecrated cross;
• the priest cuts off several strands of hair from the baby's head (in the center). This detail means obedience to God, a new spiritual life of a newly baptized baby;
• at the end of the ritual there is a three-fold round of the priest with the child in his arms around the font. The priest applies the girl to the icon of the Mother of God, the boy is brought into the altar;
• now it is possible to pass the newly baptized baby to the mother. The parent brings out the crumb of their temple;
• all guests, godparents go home with their parents to celebrate the baby's baptism.

The traditional ceremony takes from 30-40 minutes to two hours. The more couples in the church baptize children, the longer the sacrament lasts: the priest pays attention to each child.

Now you know when a newborn baby is baptized, whom to make named parents, what to buy for the ceremony. Consider the recommendations, choose worthy godparents, take a responsible approach to the preparation of the solemn ceremony. May God and the saints bless the newly baptized baby, protect him from adversity, protect him from troubles and the influence of dark forces!

The baptism of a child is an important, perhaps even the main event, both in his life and in the life of his parents. But how to properly prepare for baptism, how to choose godparents, and why are they now holding public talks in Saratov churches before baptism? We asked these questions to the priest of the Holy Trinity Cathedral in Saratov, Hierodeacon Paisiy (Shurukhin).

PREPARATION

Such conversations are held before the baptism of not only children, but also adults, this is not a novelty. Announcement talks as a communication of Christian teaching to those entering the Church have been held in the Church from the moment of its inception. The Lord said to the apostles: "... go, teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe everything that I have commanded you" (Matthew 28, 19). This "teach" is the Lord's instruction on the need to teach the basics of faith before being baptized.

The teaching of the basics of the Christian faith was already known in the apostolic period of the Church: it is known that the apostle and evangelist Mark founded the catechumens (Alexandrian) school for the instruction of converts. The proclamation in the ancient Church took from forty days to three years. The catechuchman was supposed to have a recipient - a witness, vowing to the bishop or presbyter for the sincerity of the intentions of the person wishing to become a member of the Church.

In pre-revolutionary Russia, the announcement took place for six weeks. Only then could a person be baptized. The situation changed in the Soviet years, when the announcement and baptism itself were practically prohibited. Only recently has the state ceased to be an implacable enemy of the Church, and now the practice of publicity has been reintroduced. Each person should be familiar with the basic principles of our faith, be able to correctly substantiate why he believes so, explain how Orthodoxy differs from other religions and confessions.

Now we have two conversations for one and a half to two hours, more people can not stand it.

- Do you have public talks with your parents and godparents?

We must prepare people for their future responsibility - to be godparents. Therefore, conversations are obligatory for godparents. Of course, the presence of parents is also desirable.

SELECTION OF GOD

Father Paisiy, tell me, can any people from the parents' environment become godparents, or must godparents be churched people?

The latter is a must. Godparents must be not only baptized, but also church-going people. Unfortunately, at present this is not always observed, and when you talk with godparents at public talks, they cannot even read the Symbol of Faith (a summary of the Orthodox doctrine) by heart.

One day a man approached me and asked why we needed public talks, said: "I am already a godfather, I have godchildren, and I want to become a godfather again."

In the conversation, it turned out that he did not know the Symbol of Faith, he himself was not churchgoed, and he never brought a single godson to the church for Communion. We just sat at the table after the baptism and went our separate ways. There is no spiritual upbringing of godchildren, but this should not be so: how can a person be responsible for something that he has no idea about? And godparents are, first of all, spiritual educators. If the child's father and mother are his physical parents, then the godparents are his spiritual mentors, they are obliged to help the godson become an Orthodox person. When a child is baptized, they make serious vows before the Lord. A person who does not know the doctrine and laws of the Church, who does not live the church life, cannot be the spiritual educator of a boy or girl. The church blessed children from infancy to be baptized. Because it is difficult to imagine an Orthodox family where parents will be baptized, but their child will not. But the baby himself cannot give a conscious oath of allegiance to God, and his godparents do it for him.

Baptism is like a second birth, spiritual. It is the door to the Church. A person who is baptized becomes a member of the Church, finds himself on her doorstep. This is the beginning of the journey. In the future, it already depends on him - whether he will go forward. Of course, the road ahead is difficult, but the Lord did not promise us an easy way. And the godparents are called to help the child go.

- If a person does not know whether he is baptized or not, can he become a godparent?

No, only a baptized person can be a godfather. If a person does not know whether he was baptized as a child, he needs to turn to a priest and be baptized with the rite "if not baptized before." Only after him can a person become a godfather.

- Is it obligatory to have two godparents?

No, not required. The presence of two recipients is a Russian tradition. According to the rules of the Church, one recipient is enough: a godfather for a boy and a godmother for a girl. In practice, gender mismatch is allowed.

- What age should godparents be?

You can become a godfather from the age of 14. At this age, the Church considers the child to be old enough to make important decisions in his life. There is no upper age limit, unless, of course, the potential godfather has mental disabilities or some serious illness. Parents cannot be the recipients of their own children. In general, spouses cannot be godparents of one child.

- To summarize, what are, so to speak, the main requirements for godparents?

First, they must lead godly lives. Secondly, they must be aware of the full depth of the responsibility ahead. Thirdly, of course, future godparents should be or become church people who regularly participate in the Church Sacraments of Confession and Communion. The godparents should engage in the spiritual education of the child, teach him the faith, teach him to pray, Communion and church life, read the relevant literature to him, so that the Church becomes a part of the child's life. Based on this, the parents of the child should choose godparents, and not simply because these people are well known to them. Parents must be sure that they will not be mistaken in godfathers for their child.

That is, a great responsibility falls on the godparents and parents of the baptized child? It is just that often the fact of the baptism of their child does not bring any changes to the lives of people.

Yes, and this responsibility is great. Unfortunately, many people regard faith as something abstract, as an ordinary philosophical theory. But if a person does not strive for churching, it is unlikely that anything will change in his life even after baptism. When immersed in the font, a person is freed from all sins, including the original. And in the future it depends on the person whether to commit new sins or to fight them. And the responsibility of parents and godparents is very great: they must teach the child to live in a Christian way, according to the commandments of God. If the recipients do not do this, the sin of breaking the oath will fall on them. In this case, they leave the child without their protection. If the godfather does not fulfill his duties, then there is absolutely no sense in him as a recipient. A person, when he becomes a godfather, must necessarily understand the depth and importance of the event.

WHEN SOMEONE IS AGAINST

It so happens that one of the child's parents adheres to a different religion. Is it possible then to baptize a child according to Orthodox canons?

Of course, it is possible if the second parent agrees to the infant's baptism and Orthodox upbringing. If he is against it, then you need to look at the situation. Sometimes children are brought to be baptized and secretly. There have been cases when my mother is a Christian and my father is a Muslim. But then one parent can put the whole family at risk. How will the father react to such a fact? There may be a scandal, and even the family will collapse. Therefore, it is difficult to give an unambiguous answer. It is better in such a situation to approach the priest and describe in detail all the life circumstances of a particular family. But in general, the Church does not recommend marrying a different believer, so that such disagreements do not happen. Because a person for the sake of preserving his family can neglect his faith, at first he will have difficulties with attending a service, and then falling away from the faith may occur.

- Is it possible to baptize a child if one or more family members are against?

You should try to persuade such people to meet with a priest. The main thing here is to understand what is inside a person, why he refuses to baptize his child. If people are atheists, it can be difficult to persuade them and force them to abandon their views. But it is still possible to convince of the need for a calm and loyal attitude towards the fact of the baptism of a child.

Are there cases when the parents did not baptize the child, did not consider it necessary, and he, having reached adulthood, has already come to be baptized himself?

After fourteen years, a teenager can come by himself, without parents and godparents, and be baptized. But such situations should be considered separately in order to reduce the possibility of creating scandals in the family. We have had cases when family members were almost at war with a secretly baptized family member. But over time, the quarrels smoothed out, and the family slowly resigned themselves to what had happened.

- When performing the Sacrament of Baptism, boys are brought into the altar, but girls are not. What is the reason for this?

Since ancient times, it so happened that women without special blessings could not enter the altar. And the entrance to the altar is closed for women. Therefore, during the rite of churching, which takes place immediately after baptism, boys, as future men, are brought into the altar, and girls are brought to the royal doors.

At baptism, the child is sometimes given a different name, not the one chosen by the parents and which is included in the documents. And what caused the priest's choice of this or that name?

If the baby is given a name that is not in the Orthodox month, then in this case they look at which saint is celebrated on the child's birthday, on the eighth day after birth or on the day of his christening, or simply an Orthodox consonant name for baptism is selected. The name of the saint revered in the family can be chosen. In the documents, of course, the old name will remain, but in the Church a person must give his church name, which he received in the Sacrament of Baptism.

Baby baptism- one of the main sacraments, symbolizing the acceptance of a person into the bosom of the Christian church. Baptism is a sacrament when, through certain visible sacred actions, the invisible grace of God is communicated to the person participating in them, according to the teachings of the Orthodox Church, baptism is the spiritual birth of a person, the most important event in his life on earth. In baptism, an Angel is assigned to the child as his guardian, who guards the person throughout his life. Baptism is not entertainment, but a serious matter and the thoughts of all people participating in the ceremony should be pure, transparent and sincere.

Below are the answers to questions about the ordinance of baptism that arise for those who are going to baptize children or be baptized themselves. The answers are based on reasoning Priest Dionisy Svechnikov, supplemented by materials from the sites presented in the sources (see the bottom of the answer).

When is it supposed to baptize children?

There are no definite rules in this matter. However, the earlier a person is baptized, the better. The Church calls to baptize a child either on the eighth day after birth (at this age the baby Jesus was dedicated to his Heavenly Father), or after 40 days (which happens most often today). You can also baptize at other times. The main thing is not to postpone baptism for a long period unless absolutely necessary. It would be wrong to deprive a child of such a great sacrament for the sake of the prevailing circumstances. Moreover, the baby, more often than not, is in a dream and receives less stress from a large crowd of strangers and surroundings.

Can children be baptized on fast days?

It is possible, but technically not always possible. In some churches, during the days of Great Lent, people are baptized only on Saturdays and Sundays. This practice is most likely based on the fact that weekday Lent services are very long, and the intervals between morning and evening services can be small. On Saturdays and Sundays, services are somewhat shorter in time, and priests can devote more time to services. Therefore, when planning the day of baptism, it is better to know in advance about the rules observed in the temple where the child will be baptized. Well, if in general we talk about the days on which you can baptize, then there are no restrictions on this issue. You can baptize children on any day when there are no technical obstacles to this.

How is a name chosen at baptism?

The baptism of a child is always preceded by a given name. In Orthodox families, the names must also be Orthodox, given in honor of this or that saint. A complete list of the names of the saints (saints) is usually published in the church calendars published annually. Earlier in Russia, it was customary to call newborns by the names of those saints whose memory falls on the day when baptism is performed on the given baby. However, you need to understand that this was more of a custom, but not a requirement. The church always takes into account the wishes of the parents about which saint they would like to name their baby after. If the parents have difficulties with this, then the priest himself determines the heavenly patron. In this case, the priest, as a rule, is guided by the sufficient fame of the saint. This is done so that the baby, called by this name, could later easily find out the biography of the person whose name he was named, to find his icon. The day of remembrance of the saint, after whom the person was named at baptism, is the Day of his angel, or the day of his name day.

How many godparents should a child have?

Church rules prescribe for a child to have a recipient of the same sex as the person being baptized. That is, for a boy - a man, and for a girl - a woman. In tradition, both godparents are usually chosen for the child: father and mother. This does not contradict the canons in any way. It will also not be a contradiction if, if necessary, the child will have a recipient of a different sex than the person being baptized. The main thing is that this is a truly religious person who subsequently conscientiously fulfills his duties to bring up a child in the Orthodox faith. Thus, a baptized person may have one or, at most, two recipients.

What are the requirements for godparents?

The first and foremost requirement is the undoubted Orthodox faith of the recipients. Godfathers should be church-going people, living a church life. After all, they will have to teach their godson or goddaughter the basics of the Orthodox faith, give spiritual instructions. The great responsibility of the spiritual education of their godchildren is laid on the godparents, for they, together with their parents, are responsible for it before God. This responsibility begins with the renunciation of "Satan and all his works, and all his angel, and all his ministry, and all his pride." Thus, the recipients, being responsible for their godson, make a promise that their godchild will be a Christian.

If the godson is already an adult and himself utters the words of renunciation, then the godparents present at the same time become sureties before the Church in the fidelity of his words. The godparents are obliged to teach their godchildren to resort to the saving Sacraments of the Church, mainly confession and communion, should give them knowledge about the meaning of worship, the peculiarities of the church calendar, about the blessed power of miraculous icons and other shrines. Godfathers should teach those they have received from the font to attend church services, fast, pray and observe other provisions of the church charter. But the main thing is that godparents should always pray for their godson. Obviously, strangers cannot be godparents, for example, some compassionate grandmother from the church, whom the parents persuaded to "hold" the baby for baptism. Also, you should not take as godparents just close people or relatives who do not meet the spiritual requirements that were set out above.

Godparents should not become an object of personal benefit for the parents of the baptized person. The desire to become related with a profitable person, for example, with a boss, often guides parents when choosing godparents for a child. At the same time, forgetting about the true purpose of baptism, parents can deprive the child of a real godfather, and impose on him one who subsequently will not at all care about the spiritual upbringing of the child, for which he himself will also answer before God. Unrepentant sinners and people leading an immoral lifestyle cannot become godparents.

Can a woman become a godmother during her period? What if this did happen?

On such days, women should refrain from participating in church ordinances, which include baptism. But if this did happen, then it is necessary to repent of it in confession.

How can future godparents prepare for baptism?

There are no special rules for preparing recipients for baptism. At some churches, special conversations are held, the purpose of which is usually to explain to a person all the provisions of the Orthodox faith regarding baptism and acceptance. If it is possible to attend such conversations, then it is necessary to do so, because it is very useful for future godparents. If the future godparents are sufficiently churched, constantly confess and receive communion, then attending such conversations will be a sufficient measure of preparation for them.

If potential recipients themselves are not yet sufficiently churchly, then a good preparation for them will be not only the acquisition of the necessary knowledge about church life, but also the study of Holy Scripture, the basic rules of Christian piety, as well as a three-day fast, confession and communion before the sacrament of baptism. There are several other traditions concerning the recipients. Usually the godfather takes on the payment (if any) of the baptism itself and the purchase of a pectoral cross for his godson. The godmother buys a baptismal cross for the girl, and also brings the things necessary for baptism. A baptismal kit usually includes a baptismal shirt, a sheet, and a towel.

But these traditions are optional. Often, different regions and even individual churches have their own traditions, the implementation of which is strictly monitored by parishioners and even priests, although they do not have any dogmatic and canonical foundations. Therefore, it is better to learn more about them in the temple in which the baptism will take place.

What are christening gifts?

For christening, they usually give: a cross, a kryzhma (a small piece of white cloth in which a child is wrapped after dipping into a font), an icon (a guardian angel, the Mother of God or a saint whose name the baby bears), a measured icon (an icon of the patron saint, which is written to order on a board, the height of which is equal to the height of the child at the time of baptism), clothes for the baby, pillows, blankets, embroidered linen, a children's Bible or prayer book, an incense, a bag for a curl that the priest cut off during baptism, sweets, a silver spoon (possibly with an engraved name child), books, toys, money.

What should godparents give for baptism (godson, godson's parents, priest)?

This question does not lie in the spiritual realm governed by canonical rules and traditions. But I think that the gift should be useful and remind of the day of baptism. Useful gifts on the day of baptism could be icons, the Gospel, spiritual literature, prayer books, etc. In general, in church shops now you can find a lot of interesting and soulful things, so acquiring a worthy gift should not be a big difficulty.

Can non-Orthodox Christians or non-Christians become godparents?

It is quite obvious that no, for they will in no way be able to teach their godson the truths of the Orthodox faith. Not being members of the Orthodox Church, they generally cannot take part in church sacraments.

When can a priest refuse to be baptized?

Orthodox Christians believe in God the Trinity - Father, Son and Holy Spirit. The founder of the Christian faith was the Son - the Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, a person who does not accept the Divinity of Christ and does not believe in the Holy Trinity cannot be an Orthodox Christian. Also, a person who denies the truths of the Orthodox faith cannot become an Orthodox Christian. A priest has the right to refuse a person in baptism if he is going to accept the sacrament as a kind of magical rite or has some kind of pagan belief regarding baptism itself.

Can spouses or those who intend to marry become godparents?

The spiritual relationship established between recipients in the sacrament of baptism is higher than any other union, even marriage. Therefore, spouses cannot become godparents of one child. By doing so, they will question the possibility of the continued existence of their marriage. But alone, they may well be godparents of different children from the same family. Those who intend to marry cannot become godparents, because becoming recipients, they will have a spiritual degree of kinship that is higher than the bodily one. They will have to end their relationship and limit themselves only to spiritual kinship.

What if a man and a woman became godparents of one child, and then got married?

If something like that happened due to their ignorance of the church canons, then this is half the trouble. It is worse if, knowing about the impossibility of their marriage, they nevertheless decided to get married, and at the wedding they did not say anything to the priest about their spiritual relationship. In any case, this issue can be resolved only by the supreme ecclesiastical authority in the person of the ruling bishop. For this, it is necessary to apply to the diocesan administration with a corresponding petition addressed to the ruling bishop. The marriage will either be invalidated or the spouses will be called to repentance for sin committed in ignorance. There is also a slightly different situation, when, through ignorance, the spouses became the recipients.

What if, through ignorance, the spouses became godparents?

The resolution of this issue is also under the jurisdiction of the diocesan bishop. In such a case, it is worth doing the same as in the case of married receivers (godparents), i.e. apply to the diocesan administration with a corresponding petition addressed to the bishop.

Can people living in a civil marriage become godparents?

At first glance, this is a rather complex issue, but from the church point of view, it is resolved unambiguously. Such a family cannot be called a full-fledged one. And in general, one cannot call a prodigal cohabitation a family. Indeed, in fact, people living in a so-called civil marriage live in fornication. This is a great misfortune in modern society. People baptized in the Orthodox Church, at least aware of themselves as Christians, for some incomprehensible reason refuse to legitimize their union not only before God (which is undoubtedly more important), but also before the state. There are a myriad of excuses on this score.

For God, the desire to "get to know each other better" or "unwillingness to stain the passport with unnecessary seals" cannot be an excuse for fornication. In fact, people living in a "civil" marriage trample on all Christian concepts of marriage, family. Christian marriage presupposes the responsibility of the spouses for each other. During the marriage, they become a single whole, and not two different people who have made a promise from now on to live under the same roof. Marriage can be compared to two legs of one body. If one leg stumbles or breaks, then the other must carry the entire weight of the body on itself. And in a "civil" marriage, people do not even want to take responsibility for stamping their passports.

What, then, can we say about such irresponsible people, while wanting to be godparents? What good can they teach the child? Could they, having very shaky moral foundations, be able to give a good example to their godson? Not at all. Also, according to church canons, people leading an immoral life (“civil” marriage should be regarded as such) cannot be recipients of the baptismal font. And if these people finally decide to legalize their relationship before God and the state, then they, moreover, will not be able to be godparents for one child. Despite the seeming complexity of the question, there can be only one answer - unequivocally: no.

Can a young man (or girl) become a godfather for his bride (groom)?

In this case, they will have to terminate their relationship and limit themselves only to a spiritual connection, because in the sacrament of baptism, one of them will become the recipient - the godparent of the other. Can a son marry his own mother? Or a daughter to marry her own father? Obviously not. Of course, the church canons cannot allow this to happen.

Can relatives become godparents?

Grandfathers, grandmothers, uncles and aunts may well become godparents with their little relatives. There are no contradictions to this in the church canons. But they shouldn't be married to each other.

Can a foster father (mother) become a godfather for an adopted child?

According to rule 53 of the VI Ecumenical Council, this is unacceptable.

Can the parents of a child become godparents to the children of their godfathers (godfathers of their children)?

Yes, this is perfectly acceptable. Such an action does not in any way violate the spiritual relationship that has been established between parents and recipients, but only strengthens it. One of the parents, for example, the mother of a child, can become the godmother of the daughter of one of the godfathers. And the father may well be the godfather of the son of another godfather or godfather. Other options are possible, however, spouses cannot become godparents of one child.

Can a priest be a godfather (including the one who performs the sacrament of baptism)?

Yes maybe. In general, this question is very urgent. From time to time, priests have to hear a request to become a godfather from people who are completely unfamiliar to me. Parents bring their child to baptism. For some reason, there was no godfather for the child. They begin to ask to become a godfather for the child, motivating this request by the fact that they heard from someone that in the absence of the godfather, the priest must fulfill this role. We have to refuse and baptize with one godmother. A priest is the same person as everyone else, and he may well refuse strangers to be godfather to their child. After all, he will have to bear responsibility for the upbringing of his godfather. But how can he do this if he sees this child for the first time and is completely unfamiliar with his parents? And, most likely, he will never see again. This is obviously not possible. But a priest (even if he himself performs the sacrament of baptism) or, for example, a deacon (and the one who will concelebrate the sacrament of baptism to the priest) may well become recipients of the children of his friends, acquaintances or parishioners. There are no canonical obstacles to this.

Is it possible to become a godfather "in absentia"?

The very meaning of receptivity presupposes the acceptance by the godfather of his godson from the font itself. By his presence, the godfather agrees to be the recipient of the baptized and undertakes to educate him in the Orthodox faith. This cannot be done in absentia. In the end, a person whom they are trying to "write in absentia" as godparents may not agree at all to this action and, as a result, the baptized person may be left completely without a godfather.

How many times can a person become a godparent?

In the Orthodox Church, there is no clear canonical definition as to how many times a person can become a godfather during his life. The main thing that a person who agrees to become a godfather must remember is a great responsibility for which he will have to answer before God. The measure of this responsibility determines how many times a person will be able to take upon himself the receptivity. This measure is different for each person and, sooner or later, a person may have to abandon the new receptivity.

Can you refuse to become a godfather? Wouldn't that be a sin?

If a person feels an inner unpreparedness or has fundamental fears that he will not be able to conscientiously fulfill the duties of a godparent, then he may well refuse the parents of the child (or the baptized one himself, if it is an adult) to become the godfather of their child. There is no sin in this. It will be more honest in relation to the child, his parents and himself than, taking responsibility in the spiritual upbringing of the child, not to fulfill his immediate duties.

Is it possible to become the godfather of the second child in the family, if he already had one with the first?

Yes, you can. There are no canonical obstacles to this.

Is it possible for one person to be godfather to several people (for example, twins) during baptism?

There are no canonical prohibitions on this. But technically it can be quite difficult if babies are baptized. The receiver will have to hold and receive both babies from the font at the same time. It will be better if each godson has his own godparents. After all, each of those baptized separately are different people who have the right to their godfather.

At what age can you become a godfather?

Minor children cannot become godparents. But, even if a person has not yet reached the age of majority, then his age should be that when he will be able to realize the full weight of the responsibility he has assumed and will conscientiously fulfill his duties as godfather. It seems that this may be the age close to adulthood.

What if, for objective reasons, you have not seen your godson for years?

Objective reasons are the physical separation of the godfather from the godson. This is possible if the parents moved with the child to another city or country. In this case, all that remains is to pray for the godson and, if possible, communicate with him using all available means of communication.

Is it possible to refuse godparents who do not fulfill their duties, have fallen into grave sins or lead an immoral lifestyle?

The Orthodox Church does not know the rite of rejection of the godparents. But parents can find an adult who, not being the actual recipient of the font, would help in the spiritual upbringing of the child. At the same time, he cannot be considered godfather. But having such a helper is better than depriving the child of communication with a spiritual mentor and friend altogether. After all, a moment may come when a child begins to seek spiritual authority not only in the family, but also outside it. And at this moment such an assistant would be very useful. And the child, as he grows up, can be taught to pray for the godfather. After all, the child's spiritual connection with the person who received him from the font will not be severed if he takes responsibility for the person who himself has not coped with this responsibility.

Can you baptize without godparents?

There is always a need for godparents. Especially for children. But not every adult baptized person can boast of a good knowledge of the Holy Scriptures and church canons. If necessary, an adult can be baptized without godparents, because he has a conscious faith in God and can quite independently utter the words of renunciation of Satan, combine with Christ and read the Creed. He is fully aware of his actions. The same cannot be said for babies and young children. The godparents do it all for them. But, in case of extreme need, you can baptize a child without recipients. Such a need, undoubtedly, can be the complete absence of worthy godparents.

Is it necessary to baptize a person who does not know for sure whether he was baptized as a child?

According to Canon 84 of the VI Ecumenical Council, such people must be baptized if there are no witnesses who could confirm or deny the fact of their baptism. In this case, the person is baptized, pronouncing the formula: "If he is not baptized, the servant (servant) of God is baptized ...".

Can a pregnant woman become a godmother?

Sure. The misconceptions on this score have nothing to do with church canons and traditions and are superstition. Participation in church ordinances can only be for the benefit of the expectant mother.

What is needed for baptism?

Before baptism (your own or your child's), you need to learn about the basics of faith in order to responsibly approach the entry into a new life. Those who wish to be baptized and the godparents must know by heart the Symbol of Faith and the prayers "Our Father" and "Theotokos, Virgin, rejoice." For adults who want to be baptized, as well as for the parents and godparents of the infant, catechumens are held in churches with the priest. You must attend at least two such talks at the selected temple. At the end of the second conversation or immediately before the sacrament of Baptism, the priest confesses those who are being baptized. Parents and supporters of children under 7 years of age are also encouraged to confess and receive Holy Communion.

What to take with you to your baptism?

For baptism, you need to take with you: documents (passport for an adult or a birth certificate for an infant); a clean towel large enough to dry off after submerging in water (you can use a diaper for a baby); a new long white baptismal shirt (women can wear a white dress); consecrated Orthodox pectoral cross; several candles; slippers (during the anointing with oil, a person remains barefoot and without socks, slippers will be needed before and after this moment); women need a headdress (scarf or hat).

How is the baptismal ceremony?

If an adult starts baptism, then before the beginning of the sacrament, he passes an interview with a priest, during which he brings repentance for his sins. This is not a confession in the exact sense of the word, not a sacrament, but part of the preparation for the sacrament of baptism. A person must remember his most serious sins and renounce them.

Before the sacrament of Baptism, the rite of censure is performed, during which prayers of the prohibition of unclean spirits are pronounced and the person renounces Satan three times (the godfather pronounces the words of renunciation for the infant). Then the priest asks three times: "Are you in harmony with Christ?" - and the person replies: "I combine." Then the person approaching the baptism reads the Creed (the godfather or godmother reads for the baby).

After this, the actual baptism begins. During this sacrament, a person immerses himself in consecrated water three times and then puts on a white shirt (a symbol of new life in light and with Christ) and puts on a pectoral cross. The pectoral cross must be worn all life, without taking off, and the baptismal shirt must be kept. Immediately after baptism, the newly baptized chrismation is performed, and then - his first communion.

How long is the baptismal ceremony?

Usually, the entire rite of Baptism lasts about an hour, but it can be longer if there are many who want to be baptized.

It is one of the most important in the days preceding the performance of this great sacrament. The path of spiritual growth that he has to go through largely depends on how successful the choice of the child's parents will be. Therefore, we will try to fully understand this issue, and, if possible, avoid mistakes.

When should a baby be baptized?

The first and most important event in the life of a newborn is the rite of holy baptism. There is no strictly established rule as to how many days after the birth of a baby it should be performed. But taking into account the spiritual significance of the sacrament, it is recommended not to postpone it for a long time without serious reasons, and to try to ensure that the sacrament was performed in the first year of a child's life.

Both in the process of performing the rite, and in the further spiritual life of the newly baptized, an important role is played by the godparents appointed to him, who take upon themselves the responsibility to educate him in the spirit of Orthodoxy. That is why the question of how to choose godparents for a child is of great importance so that in the future they can fully fulfill the mission entrusted to them.

Who cannot be among the godparents?

It should be noted that there are certain restrictions when appointing godparents. This role cannot be played primarily by the parents of the child themselves and, in addition, by persons who are related. Also, church rules prohibit entrusting this to people who are married to each other or intend to enter into it after some time. The reason is quite obvious. - these are people who are in a spiritual relationship, and physical intimacy between them is unacceptable.

Continuing the conversation about how godparents are chosen for a child, it must be emphasized that they cannot be all sorts of other religions, including even Christians of other confessions (Catholics, Protestants, Lutherans, etc.). And, of course, one should not trust this to people generally unbelievers or declaring their faith, but unbaptized and not attending church.

As for the age restrictions imposed on potential candidates, girls can be godparents from the age of thirteen, and boys from fifteen. It is believed that, provided that they have a correct and proper religious upbringing at this age, they are already able to realize the responsibility entrusted to them and eventually become their godson.

And finally, persons suffering from mental illness should be excluded from the number of possible candidates, since they cannot be held responsible for their actions, and those who lead an immoral (from the church and universal human point of view) lifestyle. Monks and nuns cannot be godparents either.

Who should you choose?

However, the question of how godparents are chosen for a child is not limited only to a list of those who are not suitable for this role. Another thing is much more important. You should know who can be chosen as godparents for a child, and in this regard there are no clearly delineated boundaries, but only recommendations based on the life experience of previous generations of Orthodox Christians.

Before you stop your choice on someone, you should first of all think about whether they will pray for their godson or goddaughter all their lives, because this is precisely one of their main responsibilities. This is especially important in the first years after baptism, since the child is still small and cannot himself turn to the Creator in prayers. In addition, it is generally accepted that the prayer of those who received a baby from the holy font has a special grace-filled power and can be heard.

Any relative of the child can become a godson, regardless of a friend of his parents or just someone they know and respect. But at the same time, it is necessary, first of all, to be guided by whether the chosen one will be a good advisor and a good spiritual educator of the child.

In order to better understand how godparents are chosen for a child, one should outline the range of responsibilities that are assigned to each of them. This will help to avoid in the future many disappointments and disappointments associated with the haste and thoughtlessness of the decision.

According to the existing tradition, godparents should go to church a day or two before performing the sacrament and confess and receive communion there in order to remove the burden of earthly sins from themselves, which can interfere with the establishment of spiritual unity with the godson. Directly on the day of baptism, they impose a voluntary fast on themselves, excluding both eating and performing marital duties.

During the performance of the sacrament, the "Symbol of Faith" is read, moreover, if the ceremony is performed on a girl, then the godmother reads the prayer, and if over a boy, then the godfather. In this regard, it is important to carefully prepare, learn the text and ask the priest in advance when to read the prayer and how.

It is extremely important to choose the right godparents for the child in relation to the help that is expected from them during the ceremony itself. And this primarily applies to the godmother. She, among other things, must take care of the gift for the child, and the various things necessary for the sacrament, such as a baptismal shirt, a towel and, of course, a pectoral cross that will be worn on him. By the way, it should be noted that during the performance of the sacrament, her presence is necessary, while the godfather can participate in it only in absentia.

The psychological aspect of choosing a godmother

It is very important to take into account the fact that after bathing in the font the godmother takes the child in her arms, and here it is necessary to take care that this does not cause stress for the baby. It is highly desirable that the candidate for this role has held him in her arms before, and he was familiar with her features. The same can be said for the godfather. In the entire spectrum of issues related to how godparents are chosen for a child, this one occupies one of the main places.

Responsibility for the subsequent spiritual life of the child

According to church teaching, the relationship of a child with those who received him from the holy font is considered even closer than with the real parents who gave him life. They will have to answer for him at the Last Judgment, and therefore their duty is unswerving concern for the spiritual growth of their godson.

This side of their responsibilities to him and to the church includes not only conversations on religious topics that can expand the knowledge of the godson in the field of Orthodoxy, but also familiarizing the child with attending church and participating in divine services. Moreover, in order to achieve the best result, godparents must steadily improve their own spirituality and be a living and convincing example for the child.

Replacing Faith with Ritual

It is very unfortunate that today the true Christian faith is often replaced by so-called ritualism. Leaving aside the foundations of the teachings of Jesus Christ, who preached humanism, sacrifice in the name of one's neighbor and repentance as the acquisition of the Kingdom of God, people hope to receive momentary earthly blessings by performing certain ritual actions.

If the ancient pagans were forgiven for such naivety due to their ignorance, now, when the Lord has given us the Holy Gospel, it remains only to regret those who, when asked why they baptize a child, without thinking, answer: "So that they do not get sick." And it's all! Not a word that they desire his union in the Spirit of God with the Creator of the Universe and the possibility of inheriting Eternal Life by him.

How to choose godparents for a child if the parents are unbelievers?

In addition, in recent years it has become fashionable, and unbelieving parents often carry them to the holy font, doing this only in order to keep up with others. Despite this, the church welcomes the baptism of a newborn, regardless of the reasons that led his parents, although she wants them to take a more responsible approach to the holy sacrament, which is the spiritual birth of their little man.

That is why the question of how to choose godparents for a child acquires special significance, because it is they who, with their religiosity, can make up for what a real father and mother are not able to give. There can be no general advice in his decision, since in each case it is individual and depends on the environment of relatives and friends in which young parents live. It is among these people that we should look for those who, by their faith, are able to help a child to take the path of spiritual growth.

A question spawned by superstition

Sometimes one hears a rather strange question about how to choose godparents for a child in and in general, is it possible to perform this sacrament in a year that has February 29 in its calendar? This question is strange, first of all, because, according to the clergy themselves, in the Orthodox Church there is no such thing as a leap year, and therefore, there are no restrictions associated with it, be it weddings, christenings or other sacraments. The popular belief that he brings misfortune is the fruit of superstition and empty speculation. Believers, on the other hand, should have in themselves only the fear of God and hope in His mercy, and not the fear of any signs.