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Hello, tell me, please, I want to make an inscription on the monument "Rest, Lord, the soul of your deceased servant", but can you write it like this with the name - "Rest, Lord, the soul of your deceased servant Vladimir"? And yet, at the end of these words, which sign is better, an ellipsis? Thanks.

Yuliya

Yes, Julia, you can write like that. God help you.

Priest Sergiy Osipov

Father, hello. I will order a monument to my father with a cross on it. Crosses can be made different - seven, three, five-pointed, which one is better?

Yuliya

Julia, there must be an Orthodox cross on the grave of an Orthodox Christian. The rest is at your choice.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello! I have a question - they buried my grandmother with my dad. If you stand facing the grave, then the father's monument stands as usual (I don’t remember how it was buried - where with the face, I don’t remember), and the grandmother's cross was placed at the feet - it turned out to be on the opposite side of the monument. And if you stand facing the grave, then the face of the cross is not visible. Is it possible to rearrange the cross next to the monument?

Olga

Hello Olga. The cross should stand at the feet of the deceased, lying with his face to the east. If Grandma is buried like this, it is best not to rearrange. God help.

Priest Sergiy Osipov

Hello, please tell me why is passionate attachment to animals a sin? Thanks for the answer.

Irina

To begin with, I would like to hear from you, what do you consider “passionate attachment to animals”? For example, I do not understand cemeteries with monuments for them - this is a religious sin. And caring for the homeless, the wounded, feeding and caring for them is not a sin. This is fine. Of course, you can't keep 100 cats in an apartment. It is not meant for that.

Archpriest Maxim Khizhiy

Good day! What is the significance of depicting saints on tombstones? In particular, the image of the Mother of God on the back of the monument. Thanks in advance for your reply.

Svetlana

Christ is risen, Svetlana! Traditionally, Christians do not put a cross on the grave, as a sign of our faith and the deceased. For the same reason, icons began to be depicted on monuments. It is more logical to depict them not from the back side, but from the front, but there is usually a photograph of the deceased. God bless you.

Priest Sergiy Osipov

Can a photograph be attached to the monument?

Svetlana

Svetlana, the photo can be installed - but it doesn't give anything to the deceased. The most important and important thing at the grave is the Orthodox cross. And personally, I do not welcome monuments on the graves.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Good afternoon and God help. More than 6 years ago my mother died. She is cremated like grandma. Both lie in the same grave, both baptized. Is it possible to erect a cross-shaped monument over their grave? Is it worth it to depict Jesus on such a monument? It is difficult to find the canonical six-pointed Cross (I'm not talking about a tree, but about a stone). Is it possible to put a four-pointed one? How important is it? Thanks in advance for the answers. God bless you!

r.b. Xenia

Of course, a monument in the form of a cross can be erected, it is desirable to erect a traditional Orthodox eight-pointed cross (this form of a cross is very popular, it is strange that difficulties arise with this). If you cannot put an eight-pointed cross, put a four-pointed one, with a crucifix or not - this is at your discretion.

deacon Ilya Kokin

A year since my father died. Today we were at the cemetery, I was sweeping snow from the monument, and the plaque with the name and dates of birth and death broke in half. I can't find a place for myself, was it a sign for me, or was it just my oversight?

oksana

Oksana, the plate is broken because it is in the open air and is exposed to atmospheric conditions (snow, rain). Order a new sign and stop inventing and winding yourself up with empty worries. But it is imperative to pray for the dead - both at home and in church.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Bless, father! Hello. They say that you cannot erect a monument for up to a year. There must be a cross. But the year falls on a frosty time. Is it possible to set it on the parent's day? The husband was buried in his homeland, from us, relatives, very far away, we do not have such an opportunity to visit often. I think that before a year is not good, but my brother wants spring. Tell me, how will it be right? So let's do it. And he died on November 13. Remember, for Christ's sake.

Maria

Maria, in fact, according to the Orthodox tradition, there should be a cross on the grave of a Christian, not a monument. The tradition of erecting a monument on a grave only after the anniversary is not caused by the church charter, but rather by the technical reasons for the installation. Therefore, you can decide on the timing of the installation according to your opinion.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Good afternoon. Please tell me my husband died on November 15, 2013. Before Easter, I want to erect a monument. They tell me that this cannot be done until a year. Tell me how to do the right thing. Thank you in advance for your response.

Olga

Olga, in general I am an opponent of monuments. An Orthodox grave must have a gravestone cross. The cross can be made of stone. You can make a combined one: the upper part is the Cross itself, and the lower part is like a monument. I think this is the best. They do not put it up to a year only because the soil has not completely settled and the stone can be crooked. If the soil is hard enough, then you can do it at any time and not wait a year.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Darina, your will, but I don't really like the idea of ​​the monument. I do not think that it will be supported by the city administration - this is the allocation of space, this is a project, etc. But hanging a creative banner is another matter. You can always update, move to another location. Closer, for example, to abortion clinics.

Archpriest Maxim Khizhiy

Hello! Tell me, please, my grandfather, Archpriest John, he went to God in August, we are now ordering a monument in the form of a Cross, well, everything is as he wished. And we don't know how to make the inscription correctly - Archpriest John and the surname, or simply - the surname, Ivan Fedorovich, and the font should be Old Church Slavonic or there is no meaning? God bless you!

Anna

Anna, the font does not matter, but it is imperative to write that he is Archpriest John, and in brackets - the surname, name and patronymic. It will be right.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello! Bless to ask a question to Abbot Nikon (Golovko). Thank you for your help and advice about family life. Now my question is on a different topic. How does the Orthodox Holy Church relate to the history of Ancient Egypt, and specifically to the Egyptian pyramids? Are they considered occult symbols or just monuments of architecture and history, or is there some scientific theory about their impact? Now a lot is said about the pyramids and their impact. Some manage to build them in houses and on personal plots, talking about their healing, healing properties. Share the "miracles" that come from them. Help me figure out how it relates to the pyramids and to the scientific arguments that lead about them? Thanks.

Ludmila

Lyudmila, I personally do not remember any specialized researchers conducted by Orthodox theologians or priests in relation to the pyramids. However, I can suppose why this topic is not well developed - just everyone is busy with their own salvation, the struggle with sin and passions, and the question of the pyramids is so far beyond the scope of questions necessary for salvation that there is apparently no time to deal with it. It is possible, however, to say absolutely unequivocally that the pyramids were built, first of all, as religious buildings, and this cult was by no means divine, but satanic, demonic. Therefore, all the "miracles" that occur inside them must be attributed to demons - through these "miracles" they lure the souls of inexperienced people to the pyramids, distracting them from divine contemplation and salvation.

Abbot Nikon (Golovko)

Please tell me if it is possible to draw on the monument the deceased who is laughing in the photo? This is a young guy.

Natasha

Natalia, in the Christian tradition a cross is placed on the grave. Once you are erecting a monument, then choose the image in agreement with loved ones. God bless you.

Priest Sergiy Osipov

Good afternoon. In our family, dad died in early September. The death was unexpected, he was only 52 years old. Literally 10 days before that, my mother went to the anniversary of her mother's death, and behind the monument she found 2 heaps of earth, wrapped in napkins. Even then, it alerted her. She was advised to try and burn it. We did everything we could. And so, 10 days pass, and our dad dies ... Before 40 days, mom had a fire in her house, a gas leak. Thank the Lord that everyone is safe and sound, and the house has not suffered much. But both my mother and I are worried about those piles of land in the cemetery, and the fact that there were exactly 2. Tell me, what could it be and why was it done?

valentine

Valentina, I can't say where this land came from, who could have put it and why, however, I want to warn you that it is very unreasonable to believe such signs, to panic because of this, and sinful. If a person believes in God and prays, if he confesses, has a clear conscience and takes communion, then nothing will harm him. And without God, man is afraid of every bush. Therefore, stop your fears, please, thank God for saving you from troubles and go rather to the temple, to divine services, to communion, in order to be with God and not grieve Him, living not the way He expects from us.

Abbot Nikon (Golovko)

What does the cross in the legs and in the head represent?

In the Christian tradition, the dead are buried facing east, that is, with their head to the west and feet to the east. This is how Christ was buried in a cave grave. The New Testament claims that before the End of the World, Christ will rise like lightning from the east. When the departed, in turn, are resurrected to appear before the Last Judgment, they will be able to immediately see Christ. The cross at the feet symbolizes support and eternal life.

If the cross stands at the head of the grave, this symbolizes the banner that a person will carry in his hands after the general resurrection as a symbol of victory over the dark forces.

What do church dogmas say?

The Church explains that the orientation of the cross has more to do with religious tradition than dogma. It all depends on local customs, as well as on the religious beliefs of the loved ones of the deceased. So the cross can stand both in the legs and in the head. Among Orthodox Russians, the first option is more common. In Catholic countries - the second.

Opinions of clergy

But even among the ministers of the Orthodox Church there are disagreements on this matter. For example, in the book "All Alive With God" it is said: "The cross, a symbol of salvation, rises above the grave of every Christian (it is placed at the feet)."

Father Afanasy (Gumerov) says: “According to the Orthodox tradition, the deceased is buried with his head to the West and, accordingly, his face to the East, so that he can see the sunrise. The sun is born in the East, but dies in the West. The position of the deceased expresses silent prayer and the desire to follow from darkness to light, from West to East, from this earthly

the world into eternity. Before the end of the world, Christ will come from the East, where according to the Bible is Paradise. And when he comes, the dead must see His face, and Christ must see the faces of the dead. The cross of Christ is placed at the feet of the deceased. Orthodox churches are also built in such a way that believers face the East during prayer. "

And the hieroschemamonk Amfilochiy (Nikolai Fedorovich Trubchaninov) writes in the book “The Power of the Cross of Christ”: “And then it became such a time that they began to put the cross at the feet of the deceased. So he said: “I am ready to accept any, the most cruel torments, but only so that the words do not come out of my mouth: to put a cross in my feet. And God forbid that they put a cross at my feet, I will come from there and show then where the cross is being placed. "

Father Oleg Molenko, when asked by a believing woman about the installation of the cross, answers as follows: “On the day of the glorious general resurrection of the dead ... the bodies of all dead people will be resurrected by God's power and will rise from their graves. Those who, according to the pious custom, had a cross at their feet, those who rebelled,

first of all, they will see this beloved symbol of their salvation. Those who, due to ignorance or other reasons, put a cross at the head of the bed ... they can only hit their head on the base of the cross. "

So it's up to you to decide which tradition to follow and where to put a cross on the grave.

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Hello, at the grave of his father someone leaves handfuls of coins or a few pectoral crosses, on a monument, on a table, on the floor. Not for the first time. What can this mean and how to be? Thanks.

Tatiana

Tatiana. I do not know who is doing this and why, but I am sure that you do not need to be afraid of anything. Take the crosses to the church, and distribute the small change to those in need.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello! Please tell me what to put on a relative's grave and what not? Is the cross enough, do you need a photo and other data about the deceased? They say that you need something like a monument with photos and data. Tell me what is really needed?

Yuri

Hello Yuri! First of all, there should be a cross on the Orthodox grave. For the memory of the living, you can hang a plate with the data of the deceased, a photograph. If in time you wish to erect a monument, then the cross on it must still be present.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Good health. I wanted to order a new cross at the cemetery, because the old one fell, and I was offered to put the cross on a boo, but it also needs to be bought, only it is cheaper. These, they say, are the crosses that are removed in order to erect a monument. Is it even possible to put such a cross?

Catherine

Catherine, of course, you can. If it is expensive to put a new cross on the grave, put the one that you are offered. An Orthodox grave should not have a monument, but an Orthodox cross.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello, is a photograph required on the monument of the deceased?

Tatiana

Tatyana, there must be an Orthodox cross on an Orthodox grave, everything else (monuments, photos, etc.) is not at all necessary.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Good afternoon, father! In the Kharkiv region, a mother and her three children - 6 months, 6 years and 7 years old - burned down during a fire. They were buried in two coffins: a mother with a 6-month-old baby in one coffin, and children 6 and 7 years old - in another coffin. And instead of four graves in the cemetery, there are only two. How does the church relate to such cases and is this permissible at all? Save the Lord for the answer. Excuse for troubling.

Natalia

Natalya, yes, this is possible, there is nothing reprehensible here: remember, for example, the soldiers' mass graves, where many people are buried, and over the grave there is one large monument or cross. Moreover, this was the case with the early Christian martyrs - not always each of them was buried separately. Very often the bones of the martyrs, burnt in a furnace or torn to pieces by wild beasts, were buried by pagans in one grave.

Abbot Nikon (Golovko)

Hello, tell me, please, is it true that earth cannot be poured from one grave onto another? The fact is that during the erection of monuments to my parents, the soil from the graves was mixed. If this is a violation, how can you fix it?

Lydia

Lydia, there are no rules in the church that would indicate that you cannot take land from one grave to another. I think this is not essential. We all live on the same land, under the same sun, and we all breathe the same air. Don't worry, there is nothing wrong. The main thing is to pray for your dead, and visit church yourself more often, confess and receive communion.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello, father! Doesn't the fact that on the grave of an Orthodox person, when erecting a monument and a fence, the workers pulled out an oak cross, put it on the grave, poured it over with concrete and put paving slabs on top, does not contradict the Orthodox canons. (There is a small Orthodox cross in the upper corner of the erected monument).

Gennady

Gennady, we, Orthodox, must live and die in the Orthodox way, and we must bury in a strictly Christian way. The most important thing at the Orthodox grave is, of course, the CROSS. The cross should not be drawn, but should stand at its full height. Tell me, why does the deceased need a monument at all, if it is erected instead of a cross? It is not right. The cross should not have been taken out of the grave. The cross is our hope, our hope. And what is a monument - it is a soulless block of marble, which, unfortunately, is now being erected by many instead of the Cross. The cross on the grave of an Orthodox Christian must be mandatory, and not lie but stand!

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello! Please answer two questions about Genesis. 1. Why the Bible tells twice about the origin of man - once in the sixth [Gen. 1: 23-29], and the second time the seventh day of creation [Gen. 2: 2-8] and [Gen. 2: 15-24]? 2. Why is the creation / creation of man different in the sixth and seventh days of creation? Thank you!

Vladimir

Vladimir, there is no contradiction here, it’s just a narrative style characteristic of such an ancient monument as the Bible. First, it speaks about the creation of the world and man including, and then in more detail about the origin of all that exists.

Abbot Nikon (Golovko)

Hello! Please answer my question. My grandmother died, and we do not know the exact date of death, because they found her on January 12 in the morning, and this date was written everywhere, in documents and on the monument. But after comparing some facts, we doubtful, but came to the conclusion that she died on the afternoon of January 11. How should we be now and when to do memorial days, especially the important fortieth day? This is a very painful question for me. After all, we may be late (so to speak) with the memorial day. Please help and thanks in advance.

Natalia

Natalia, if the most likely date of death is January 11, then remember it in accordance with this date, and without embarrassment.

Abbot Nikon (Golovko)

Hello! Please tell me what will be right: to put on the grave of an Orthodox a monument with a cross and a photograph of the deceased, or just a cross? If you just put a cross, then is it possible to place the image of the deceased on the cross, or is only a plate with the full name of the person allowed? and date of birth and death?

Oleg

Oleg, a Christian should always have the Cross, both during life and after death. The cross on the grave must stand independently of the monument. You can also erect a monument, as it is convenient, but the cross is separate. On the cross, it is better to make only the date and full name, and the photo separately. But you can make a tombstone with an inscription and a photo, and put the cross separately, it will be inexpensive.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello. Help, tell me what to do. Neighbors bring burial crosses from the cemetery and set them up in front of my windows. They also erected a monument depicting the deceased. Earlier, my child suffered from the actions of these people - he was in the hospital for more than a month, and when he was discharged, crosses appeared under the window. I cannot remove them. I live with one and two small children.

Irina

What, however, "hardworking" neighbors you come across, Irina! Their energy - yes to a peaceful channel!
Do not be afraid, this whole circus will not harm you. And yourself - stand firm in the faith, live together with the Church, approach the Church Sacraments more often, grace will protect you, and the Lord will not leave His own! The apostle said, "If God is for us, who is against us?" (Rom. Ch. 8, Article 31). And besides, you can turn to public utilities, and to the help of the law, because it is unlikely that the law allows the installation of cemetery crosses taken from nowhere on a residential or public territory.

Abbot Nikon (Golovko)

Hello. Thanks for all your answers. I have another question: they ordered a monument for the deceased mother, and my grandmother wanted (well, they talked it out) to make a monument to herself with a portrait and date of birth. Isn't it a sin to order a monument for yourself in advance? And another question: they say that young people cannot wear fresh flowers to the cemetery, but only artificial ones - otherwise, supposedly, young people will die. It's just superstition, isn't it? And where do people get this nonsense? Thanks in advance for your answers!

Hello Julia! In Orthodoxy, there is a tradition to prepare a coffin and a cross for oneself during life. Many saints have done this, and there is nothing wrong with that. This is the remembrance of death, which every Christian, especially the elderly, should have. If the grandmother wants to order a monument, let him order it, if the relatives do not mind. Regarding colors - definitely superstition. Fresh flowers in the cemetery are a symbol of the eternal life of the deceased. And superstitions are born from ignorance and unwillingness to study their faith.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

In 2007, I installed a tombstone for my deceased wife. The red granite headstone depicts an Orthodox cross, a portrait of Tanyusha, a favorite flower - clematis, and a stylized (unrecognizable) sculptural image of a little girl. The invested meaning is that my Tanya will be like a guardian angel to her granddaughter Alexandra, whom she loved very much. Now the eldest daughter Anastasia insists on reworking the monument. Advise, father, how to be.

Kozlovsky Vladimir Leonidovich

Of course, your daughter is driven by superstitious fear. The monument does not need to be altered, the plot can be reinterpreted. Look at the icon of the Dormition of the Mother of God, where the soul of the Mother of God is depicted in the hands of the Savior in the form of a little girl, so this figure on the tombstone can be interpreted as a symbolic image of the soul of the deceased.

deacon Elijah Kokin

Hello, my name is Natalya, I am from Kazakhstan. I had one question, but first a little background: my mother, to my great regret, has been gone for almost 5 years, she sang in the church choir and I grew up at the church (if I may say so) and now, I remember that my mother always she said that she did not want a monument to be erected to her after her death, she allowed us to erect only a wooden cross. She explained it, but here is how she explained, literally I do not remember. She said something about the fact that on the day of judgment the cross would have to be carried, but it would be impossible to lift the monument ... And my question is: is this described somewhere in the Bible? Where did mom get such a decision?

Natalia

Hello, Natalia.
Putting a wooden cross on the grave is a pious Russian tradition. The simplicity of the material speaks of the lack of possession of the deceased.
Many will bequeath part of their funds and property to donate to the needy, and put a simple wooden cross on the grave.
On the other hand, in this way Christians confess their readiness to follow Christ and hope for the salvation of the soul. After all, the instrument of our salvation - the Cross of Christ - was made of wood.
Perhaps, one should not take literally the desire of mother to carry a wooden cross on the day of judgment, but of course, she wanted to have evidence that she carried her Cross through all the trials of earthly life.
God bless.

Priest Sergiy Osipov

Father, bless! On my father's grave, curb stones were used for landscaping. I want to put a monument on the grave and remove the curb stones. Can they be used at their summer cottage? Save me, God.

Oleg

Hello Oleg! These stones are your property, you can do with them as you wish. But I personally would not take stones from the cemetery home.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

An Orthodox cross was installed on my mother's grave 57 years ago. Now I want to put up a monument. Is it possible to replace or remove an old cross that has fallen into disrepair?

Alexander

Hello, Alexander! You can erect a monument with the image of a cross, and the old cross, so that there is no desecration, can be burned or sawed into pieces and again burned.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello! I really want to embroider our wedding portrait with my husband. Everything is ready for this. Mom, having learned about my desire, a couple of days later said that this should not be done, that it was something like a monument in life. I was very upset, so I want to know if this is so, and can I embroider a wedding portrait? Maybe you need to go to church before starting work and ask for a blessing. Please tell me what is the right thing to do?

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Hello, father, please answer my question. Recently I buried my mother, and did not put a cross on her grave with a rhinestone, now it torments me, and my friends say that I need to put up a cross. Can this be done after 40 days?

Tatiana

Tatyana, there must be an Orthodox tombstone on the grave of an Orthodox person. No need to wait 40 days - bet immediately. If now there is no possibility, then do it as soon as it appears, and you do not need to tie it to any date.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello fathers! I am very confused by one circumstance, help me figure it out. The case concerns the Russian coat of arms; it depicts an eagle with crowns, and on the crowns there are Crosses (Christian), also on the power held by the eagle - the Cross. The image of the coat of arms is printed on many objects, in particular, on many packs of cigarettes. I live in the capital, and every day I see dozens, maybe hundreds, of these packs lying on the ground (as I said, the coat of arms is printed on them). You probably already understood what confuses me: trampling on the Crosses. But I'm not sure if this is trampling. In general, please tell me if this is such a total sin or is this Cross not a shrine worthy of veneration? P.S. I know that holy images should be burned, not thrown away. Should I do this with the coat of arms? This coat of arms is a state symbol, is it depicted everywhere, do you constantly cut it out? Tell. Thank you very much.

Yuliya

In this case, Julia, the cross is part of the state symbol, the coat of arms, not intended for religious worship or prayer, and therefore the question of some kind of anti-religious humiliation, trampling on the cross in this case is incorrect.

Abbot Nikon (Golovko)

Is it possible to independently make a small wooden cross (without the image of the Savior), 30 centimeters high, and if so, when is it better to consecrate it? Thank you for answering the questions!

Dmitriy

Dmitry, an Orthodox cross must necessarily be with a crucifix. Such work should only begin with the blessing of the priest. And if you are blessed, then the cross must be done in compliance with the rules, that is, on the days when you make the cross, you must fast, and before that you must receive the Holy Communion.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello! Please tell me what to do. A year ago, they sold my grandmother's old house in the village. In the house there were icons and one cross (large) 20 cm made of metal. I don't even know whose all this is, maybe our ancestors. Tell me, what do we do about it? Thank you in advance.

Svetlana

Svetlana, you can keep some, or, if you like, all the icons and the cross. If not needed, take everything to the church.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello! Please tell me what to put on a relative's grave and what not? Is the cross enough, do you need a photo and other data about the deceased? They say that you need something like a monument with photos and data. Tell me what is really needed?

Yuri

Hello Yuri! First of all, there should be a cross on the Orthodox grave. For the memory of the living, you can hang a plate with the data of the deceased, a photograph. If in time you wish to erect a monument, then the cross on it must still be present.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello, father. Please explain. At the grave, we change the cross that was put by the funeral home at the burial. What to do with this cross? After all, you can't just throw it away? Is it possible to put it on a neighboring abandoned grave, having previously put it in order? Only a nameplate has been preserved on it.

Galina

Hello Galina! You can put a cross on a nearby grave.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Good health. I wanted to order a new cross at the cemetery, because the old one fell, and I was offered to put the cross on a boo, but it also needs to be bought, only it is cheaper. These, they say, are the crosses that are removed in order to erect a monument. Is it even possible to put such a cross?

Catherine

Catherine, of course, you can. If it is expensive to put a new cross on the grave, put the one that you are offered. An Orthodox grave should not have a monument, but an Orthodox cross.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Good afternoon, father. Please give advice. I was presented with a crucifix, according to some (but not all) signs, the image is Catholic, can I keep it at home next to the icons, pray in front of it? Or take it to church? If you can leave, should you consecrate? The gift is dear, I would not want to part with it. Thank you.

Tatiana

Tatyana, show this Crucifixion to the priest in the church and, if he blesses, consecrate it and pray in front of him - do as the priest says after seeing it personally.

Abbot Nikon (Golovko)

Hello. I have this question. This weekend was the funeral of my uncle Sergei. My mother and I did not take part in the organization of the funeral itself, but when we arrived at the cemetery, we were horrified that the grave of my uncle was dug in the same place where the grave of his own father, who died in the 70s, was. The cemetery is rural, and no one has been buried there since the 90s. we asked the relatives why they had desecrated the grave of my grandfather, to which they replied that they had buried my grandfather long ago and everything had already rotted away. So they buried the uncle in the grave of his own father, putting two crosses on the grave, the uncle and the grandfather, only turned them in different directions. tell me, is this allowed?

Svetlana

Hello Svetlana. Thou art the earth and send back to the earth, God said to Adam. The bodies of the dead become earth. The practice of “subburials” is allowed when the area of ​​the cemetery is limited and there is a small area where relatives are buried. How long must it take to get permission for such a burial, I don’t know, this is from the field of civil law. There is no desecration here. That's just, the crosses do not need to be turned in different directions, but they must be placed side by side.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Good evening! Answer me to this question, we bought an apartment from completely strangers, when they moved out, left a plaster cross on the wall, arguing that it cannot be transferred from apartment to apartment. We settled in tenants, and they flatly refused to hang this cross, my husband and I also do not need it, and we put it in a bag and carried it to the trash can. Tell me, is it a sin? And now what i can do? All this was done without thinking about their action.

Helena

Elena, throwing away the cross is a grave sin. The cross is a symbol of our salvation, the cross is a victory over death, over the devil. Christ voluntarily crucified on the Cross for us, for our salvation. You traded the cross for the money the tenants paid you. You acted very, very badly. Repent before God in the church in confession, and depending on the sincerity of your repentance and what kind of life you will lead further, God will forgive you.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Is it possible to put an iron cross on a grave?

Nikolay

Nikolay, the cross on the grave can be made of any material. An iron or marble cross is more practical than a wooden one, and therefore they are often placed and do not need to be changed later. Of course, you can put an iron cross on the grave.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello! I would like to ask, what can it mean if a cross is missing on the grave of a relative? There are suspicions that he was pulled out with certain intentions. Please tell me what kind of evil it can bring and what to do in this case? Thank you in advance.

Natalia

Natalia, if the cross is gone (it was stolen, or something else), then it does not harm you or the deceased, even if it was pulled out, as you say, with "certain intentions" - in this case, you just need to put up a new cross.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello, father. Is it possible to store icons of relatives and a cross? Or is it better to take it to the church? Thanks for the answer.

Veronica

Veronica, you can keep icons and a cross of relatives at home. But the icons should not just be stored somewhere, but hung on the wall, they should be put on a shelf and prayed in front of these icons. The cross can also be kept at home next to the icons. The cross must be consecrated in the church, and if you want, you can then wear this cross yourself. And if you are embarrassed, then take the cross to the church, but still leave the icons at home.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello, is it possible to rearrange the cross on the grave one meter ahead of the feet (dig it up and move it a little), since they put a large fence, and the cross turned out to be in the middle. Thanks in advance for your reply.

Catherine

Catherine, the church charter does not say at what distance the cross on the grave should be, we determine this by eye, but the cross should stand at the feet of the deceased. I think that nothing terrible will happen if you rearrange the cross by a meter. The main thing is to have a cross.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

All peoples have their own principles of burial, but when a person dies, a lot of questions arise related to the design and installation of a cross on the grave. .

An Orthodox cross on the grave must be installed immediately after burial.

Where is the cross on the grave of the Orthodox?

If there is a cross on the grave, then this indicates that the deceased was a Christian. For Orthodox Christians, as a rule, an eight-pointed Orthodox cross is installed on the grave. They bury their heads to the west so that they can see the sunrise.

The cross at the feet allows the deceased to see the cross and pray to it.

Its useful to note: sometimes a photograph of the deceased is screwed onto the cross, but the priests do not advise doing this. It is best to write the date of death and birth on the plate, as well as the surname, name, patronymic of the deceased.

Why do they put a cross on the grave?

In Orthodoxy, he installs a cross on the grave due to the fact that the deceased believed in Christ and wore a pectoral cross during his lifetime, and now he is under the auspices of the Crucifix, located facing the dead, in order to rise from the grave during the resurrection and see the weapon of victory over the devil.

Proportions and sizes of the cross on the grave

The sizes of the cross for the grave themselves may be different, but they must correspond to the "Golden Section". The cross bar of the cross should be equal to 1/3 of the height of the product itself, which is multiplied by 2 and it turns out that the upper end is 1/3 of the center of the cross.

The side strips should also be 1/3 equal, and the bottom will be 2/3. An inclined bar is nailed to the lower part of the cross, which will be parallel to the upper part of the cross. The slope of the plank itself should be equal to 45 degrees, and the length should be equal to the length of the plate.

The oblique bar on the cross represents the scales of justice. According to the Bible, two robbers were crucified on Calvary, one was on the left side of Christ, and the other on the right. On the right side, the robber repented and received forgiveness, and this is evidenced by the oblique end of the crossbar, which is directed upwards.

How to make a metal cross with your own hands?

Temporary grave crosses are most often made of wood, but can also be made of metal. Earlier, crosses were made of iron, sometimes they were coated with titanium spraying, steel and cast iron could also be used.

Many people buy metal crosses in ritual shops, but sometimes relatives make such a cross with their own hands. Yet again its size should be mandatory to respect the proportions of the "Divine Section".

In order to make this cross yourself, you need to choose a profile pipe, as well as a plate on which you write down information about the deceased. Before installation, it is necessary to paint the products in the desired color. After that, it is advisable to cover it with an anti-corrosion varnish so that the iron does not rust.

How to make a wood cross with your own hands?

It is easy enough to make a wooden cross for a grave, so that it turns out beautiful and correct, you need to know the basic carpentry skills.

After the cross is made according to the structure of the "Golden Section", at the end of the work the cross must be impregnated with wood stain and varnished.

Is it possible to change the cross on the grave?

If the cross on the grave has worn out and rotted over time, then it can be replaced with a new one, but the old cross must be burned.

The fact is that in the Russian Orthodox Church, wood was the most common material from which crosses were made in the cemetery. Our ancestors did not paint crosses, i.e. leave the material as it is.

But today, many are thinking about how to preserve the memory of a loved one, and so that the cross does not lose its appearance and stand much longer, before covering the cross with varnish and stain, it is necessary to clean out all the irregularities and make the surface smooth. After that, cover the cross with a stain, after that with a varnish. The varnish does not dry immediately after a certain time.

Some people cover the cross with wax, then it acquires a matte shade and this protects it from bark beetles and sunlight. There are several types of painting of crosses, but when choosing a coating, you need to pay attention so that the coating itself can protect the tree from environmental influences.

What to do with the cross after the monument has been installed?

Most priests claim that after the wooden cross is changed for a monument, it must be burned, and the remaining ashes scattered on the grave in the form of a Cross. If it is impossible to burn it, then in this case the cross is disassembled and buried in the tombstone.

The church allows to saw a wooden cross and bury it next to the grave or give it to poor people who do not have the means to install such funeral attributes.

If there is a church or chapel on the territory of the cemetery, then, as a rule, the cross is brought to the clergy, and they already make sure that it is burned according to all the rules.