« Pickup. Antidote” is a project that brings understanding, with the help of which a woman gains awareness of what is being done to her and how, and freedom of choice is born in awareness.

After reading the articles Why does the pickup work? ” and ““, you might be thinking, “Okay, I figured out that all he does is show off the False Alpha suit. But after a while, rose-colored glasses will fall off ... ".

Of course they will fall! Because the higher the status of a woman, the higher the intelligence. In order for the "rose-colored glasses" to remain in place, the pick-up artist introduces additional techniques into the Game. I call them "training" techniques.

What's the point? A pickup artist needs to force a woman invest as many resources as possible into a relationship. This is how our psyche works, no matter if it is male or female: the more we invest in something, the more expensive it is for us! And when a man is able to evoke the full range of emotions in us, then the attraction becomes even stronger. From hate to love is one step. Therefore, the pick-up artist begins to artificially stimulate emotions in order to tie a woman to himself. And, instead of giving only "positive" emotions, Player stimulate the whole range, including curiosity, jealousy, resentment, indignation, sadness, fear of loss.

Let's look under a microscope pickup truck tricks, forcing to see in the False Alpha a man of all life, for the sake of which a woman becomes capable of anything. I want to draw your attention to the fact that the techniques can be used in a light version or a heavy version - you can just touch it with a hammer, or you can bang your head. The strength of the blow depends on who holds the hammer in his hands. But the fact that in relations with a pick-up artist, “blows” are present- definitely.

EXPECTATION

One of the most important tools of the pickup master - keep waiting. During the Engage and Get Close phases, he showed up to meetings on time, so a sudden change will lead to conflict, so he lengthens his lateness gradually. How he does it?

You agreed to meet at a restaurant at eight in the evening, you left early, at this time you receive an SMS with the text: "I'm late for half an hour." There is no point in returning home, so you come to the appointed place. At 20:30 the phone rings - he is in a traffic jam or he was kidnapped by aliens, but he will be in fifteen minutes. He usually arrives in half an hour. Pick-up artists try to keep the waiting time in the restaurant less than 1 hour. You don’t even notice, because this is the first time and he warned, so you wait.

The next round of development − waiting time increase.

"I'll come by tonight!" When asked to indicate the exact time, you receive a vague answer: “As soon as I get free, I will immediately.” Evening is a flexible concept, you are already ready for seven, it is not there at eight, and at nine, and even at ten. At first you don’t call or write - he’s busy, why bother him, but after ten you break down, an SMS comes in response: “I’ll be there soon.”

You started preparing for the meeting at six, he arrived at eleven, what are you doing those five hours? Right! Thinking about him. That's why they keep you waiting! They make you wait even with a phone call. You call, he doesn't answer, he calls back in ten minutes. What is happening at this moment? The thought involuntarily runs through: what is he doing? And you wait for the call back. It turns out that when he is late, you think about him and put emotions into it. When he doesn't call, you think about him. When he picked up the phone and said that he would call back - you think again! Why would he? The more we think about someone, the more emotions, the more we become attached to him.

The question arises: why is he not afraid of being sent? Answer: because there is a technique by which irritation disappears: appear unexpectedly. Sorry. You are giving a compliment.

Therefore, when he suddenly appears on the threshold with the words: “Forgive me! You're so beautiful! I miss you! ”, instead of giving him a brazen, you rejoice - like a dog. Sorry for the harsh comparison, but it's true, this technique suppresses to the state of an animal waiting for the owner. And some pickup masters have reached such a “level” of confidence that they don’t even say “sorry”, instead they jokingly kneel or look with a plaintive look. Enough compliment and the very appearance of the owner.

The next training method is lowering self-esteem.

REDUCTION

Already expectation affects self-esteem, but in the arsenal of a pickup truck there are harder tricks. We have already talked about the Minus-Plus technique in the article “ Pickup basics. quick seduction". Negative compliments remain in the arsenal, but at the stage RELATIONSHIP they add a new version. The player chooses something in you that he does not like, and constantly focuses on this:

If you lost five kilos, you would be perfect.

If you cut your hair (dye your hair, start wearing short, wear long, quit smoking, do fitness).

The list is endless!

He cares control your self-esteem. For what? If you try to please him, then he is above you. The main indicator of the effectiveness of technology: desire to meet the requirements. And when you lose weight or cut your hair or start wearing short, you get something like this in response:

Short dress? It suits you very well! But you look even better in a little black dress, hope to see you in one!

The second frequent trick for a pickup artist: intellectual pressure. He constantly uses words in his vocabulary that you do not understand:

Do you have haptophobia?

I have dystinia today.

You give me a frisson.

I'm a deviant.

After such words, you hang out and agree with his opinion. He is so smart! But the aftertaste remains he is smart, and you are the antonym of this word. In fact, in most cases this memorized phrases- a technique for lowering the victim's self-esteem and for raising one's own in the eyes of the girl.

Next reduction method − comparison with former.

Masha cooked better! And what a figure Lena had! Here Ira was much more liberated than you! But you are a good person.

You are trying to be better!

And one of the toughest types of demotion is the presence of a third party. By the way, it is far from a fact that he chooses between you and her, but he creates an appearance.

I can not decide. I see myself with you today, but I don’t see myself in my old age ...

He turns himself into a "prize" to fight for.

After applying such techniques, the victim's self-esteem drops over time, while a song from his own lips sounds in the background:

How lucky you are with me, how smart, beautiful and in demand I am.

By the way, many of them are very far from “beauty, intelligence and demand”. Along with a drop in self-esteem, the importance of the presence of this man in life grows, and the pick-up artist connects more powerful tricks. And all your friends are very surprised: “How do you meet such a strange guy?”.

UNCERTAINTY

You are in a relationship, but their status is not defined. And when you try to talk about it, the response is something like:

I thought it was clear!

You are so smart! What questions!

You're so beautiful! What a bright blouse!

I thought you were different!

Do you want to ruin the evening?

Could such a great woman be bothered by this?

The last one is tearing me apart. That is, if you continue, then you are no longer great and, of course, you will fall silent. You never manage to discuss your relationship and come to certainty. As a rule, such conversations Player reacts with a different method of education - includes techniques cancellation. So that you know your place!

CANCEL

All technicians cancellation are a kind of quintessence of "Closer-Further". We have already talked about the near-far technique in previous article. At the beginning of the "Convergence" stage (the first long communication), he did the maximum "Closer". He came to the meeting on time, joked, read, told, while he did not show too much interest. But in relations the Closer-Further technique in different variations takes on a different meaning.

What's happened " Closer-Further"? Imagine that our emotions in a relationship can be measured on a scale: plus a hundred− maximum positive up to minus one hundred- the biggest negative: gap. When a pickupper does "Closer" it's plus fifty, when it does an advanced "Closer" it's eighty. Now imagine that there is a sharp drop in emotions, for example, from fifty to thirty - this is “Next”. Variations of the fall of the scale of emotions are used to keep a woman on her toes.

Their use begins, as a rule, immediately after sex. For example, he comes to you and you communicate without intimacy. More calls and SMS: used to call and send messages, now - no, or - may not answer them. That is, it lowers emotions from fifty to thirty. This change in behavior suggests: what's happening? And you do “Closer”: you call, write, pester - you start to catch up with him. Naturally, if you invest more emotions, then these relationships become more important for you. A woman is like a cat, it is difficult to make her hunt, but you can captivate her. And even if you didn’t take your relationship seriously at first, after these techniques it seems to you that you need it.

The second option, the most common use, I call training. That is, every time you try to find out something or bring up a topic that he does not like, he makes a sharp “Further”, increasing the gap from fifty to zero. You have an unconscious desire to avoid an uncomfortable situation, and you do “Closer” - you smooth out the conflict yourself.

AND the toughest undoing technique is called"and gla". The “needle” is used to create a long-term relationship in order to “calm down a presumptuous girlfriend” a little (quote from the guru). For some time, the pick-up artist plays the advanced “Closer” - his relationship with you consists only of positive emotions, he brings emotions to a maximum - to 80, and sometimes 90. And at the most unexpected moment, a “needle” injection follows. Moreover, the injection occurs suddenly - and the more unpredictable it is, the stronger the effect of this technique is manifested. The technique is to make a concentrated "Further", and with the greatest possible intensity for this woman. This is a technique of a sharp drop in emotions. The greater the gap in the shortest period of time, the harder the hammer blow on your psyche.

Truth, the use of the "needle" is risky: the girl can immediately leave. Therefore, the pickup artist prepares for this. At first, in order to insure, a technique is used, which I call this: donkey carrot«.

We'll go on vacation.

I need time to decide.

Everything will change tomorrow.

We knights are strange at first, but then we change.

He puts a "carrot" that gives hope for change. You don’t notice her, but at the moment when you want to break off relations, you remember her.

Second take- preparation for the "minus". For example, he says that he is afraid of losing you or that you are the most important thing in his life.

Third - input in « minus«:

You'll be mad at me again, but...

I don't know how to tell you, but...

I'm letting you down again, but...

I know we agreed, but...

In the reality "needle" occurs as follows: everything is good in your relationship. You meet, have fun, nights of love and joyful prospects. You agree that in the evening after work he will come and you will spend the weekend together. And then bam! At best, a phone call is heard, which begins with the words: "I know we agreed, but ...". At worst, the pick-up artist disappears for no reason. He does not answer calls and SMS, he is not there, and if he answers, then to the question: “What happened?”, You get something like: “Everything is fine.” And from his answer breathes such a cold that the withers stand on end. You are brought into the zone of non-existence. That is, from plus eighty» you were sent to « minus fifty“and sometimes minus eighty.

The larger the gap, the worse the condition. There is a feeling that every cell in your body is on fire from irritation and misunderstanding. Really shakes. And suddenly the next day he appears with the word: "I'm sorry." You are hysterical! But he presents evidence that you made it all up for yourself. You come up with different things, depending on the prepared scenario: from treason to he was killed.

When you experience such a range of emotions - from the maximum plus to the maximum minus - it works like a binding to a man! We forget about negative emotions, only the memory of the strength of these emotions remains in the unconscious. Therefore, it is difficult for a woman to leave such a man. They are trying to explain to her that it is necessary to break off the relationship, but she cannot - she is emotionally attached. And when the relationship ends the women lie "in the fetal position on the couch". This - result application of this technique.

UNHEALTHY GUILT

The next stage in the development of "relationships" − cultivating unhealthy feelings of guilt. I want to draw boundaries right away. Guilt is our subconscious reaction to actions that violate our “right or wrong”. If I did something wrong in my understanding, then feeling guilty is a normal reaction. I am convinced that a healthy psyche should have the “guilt feeling” option and, conversely, its complete absence signals an unhealthy one. But in a relationship with a pick-up artist, it is precisely an unhealthy feeling of guilt that develops.

After applying the technique cancellation for a normal person, this behavior is illogical, so we start looking for reasons. We think: “How did I offend him?” and after a few days of such reflections, we come up with what, and make ourselves guilty.

The illogicality of his behavior introduces a sense of guilt. Time after time passing you through the circle of hell "plus-minus", "closer-further", you lose your orientation in space. More and more often the thought comes to you: “I am wrong,” and his behavior assures this. “He is calm, does not apologize, leaves with his head held high, so something is wrong with me.” You start to blame yourself though did nothing wrong!!! The boundaries of a healthy psyche are destroyed, your "right-wrong" is no more. From now on, he can ask for everything.

DEMONSTRATION TECHNIQUES IN RELATIONSHIPS

Naturally, if a woman receives only negative emotions, the relationship will end very quickly, therefore, in parallel with all this, he includes demonstration techniques. I call it that! Because it only words without action.

pickup artist demonstrates interest: constantly asks what you think about.

pickup artist demonstrates jealousy. Jealousy for a woman is an indicator of feelings.

Where were you today? Doesn't sex with an ex count? sounds periodically from his lips.

pickup artist demonstrates desire to start a family

I dream of a normal family. I would like children.

pickup artist demonstrates false sense of guilt. Sometimes from his lips sounds:

I am a beast! How could I do that!

And your naive female heart whispers to you: “But he understood everything!!!”. In fact, this is the technique he uses when he goes too far with " training«.

pickup artist demonstrates serious attitude towards you

I take our relationship seriously! hear from his mouth.

It turns out that, on the one hand, you get a lot of “Further”, but on the other hand, there is “Closer”. His words keep you from making a decision at critical moments. Why? Because all these techniques “turn on” emotions and “turn off” logic. While emotions are “on”, you yourself are looking for an excuse for him!

Confirmation of the effectiveness of the pick-up technique is blind pursuit. And over time, a woman is ready for anything in exchange for his presence alone! All acquaintances say: "Break up with him!". But you think it's love. Although in reality this feeling has nothing to do with love. This adrenaline pseudo love. In one of the articles we will talk about this.

In two articles, pickup tricks» we have covered the steps described in the guru's books. For a pickup truck, they sound like this:

Find → Get Acquainted → Attract → Get Close → Sex → Relationships

And for the victims of the Game:

"Turn on" → "Demonstration" → "Sex" → "Training".

Therefore, the pickup truck and its techniques are much more than a one-night stand. This is a traumatized psyche that will take much longer to get rid of hammer blows than the period of the relationship itself. And the consequences of these blows are horrendous - low self-esteem, nervous exhaustion, health problems, professional degradation and, as a result, taking antidepressants or alcohol. That is why it is important to be attentive in a world where such knowledge has been received by many.

In theory, it all sounds pretty simple. But in practice, an awkward situation can turn out, from which it will be problematic to find a way out.

You can not immediately practice what you like in theory. We need to decide on the end result. You need to answer the question yourself, what kind of relationship should be obtained with girls, and from here follows the next one - what level of skill will be sufficient.

Theory and practice should be applied in small doses. No need to accumulate information, and then abruptly begin to practice. It is best to take a step into theory, and immediately fix it with practice. First you need to work out the basic rules of a pickup truck - acquaintance and the first phrases, then - ways to continue the conversation.

Rejection of dating should not be taken too painfully. A negative result is also a result. In this case, you need to analyze the errors. Perhaps it will be even more valuable experience than a successful acquaintance.

pickup schools

Special schools can help in acquiring pickup skills. This is the fastest and most efficient way to learn. Here you can count on the help of specialists and experts.

Before entering into a contract with any of the companies that provide pickup services, you need to carefully find out exactly what services they provide. In any case, you will have to learn, and not hope for a magical result that will appear out of nowhere.

self-learning

Books of pickup skill usually contain moments in titles and announcements that will be easy to compare with the goal of training, and choose the right one. For example, “How to get acquainted on the street / in transport / at a party” or “Pickup. The Art of Seduction" or something like that. Some manuals present original methods of seduction. But not everyone can fit.

Without practice, knowledge is acquired slowly. Therefore, any theory must be supported by practice. Questions can be asked on the forums dedicated to how to learn how to pickup.

Those. after reading the topic, you need to go to fix the practice. If you can’t ask a question on the forum, learn everything in practice.

You can ask a friend for help. It is easier to master theory and practice together. Then you can discuss all that worked and what did not work. Perhaps a look from the outside will help you see the mistake and avoid it next time.

Not necessarily everything will turn out right away, but you need to learn and master what is not yet familiar. If you take pickup truck training seriously, the result will not be long in coming.

Why do men master a pickup truck, who is a pickup artist and what does he achieve? - around this issue, women breed a bunch of myths and substitute concepts.

A pikaper is a man who seduces women solely for the sake of seduction and seduction. In general, this is the whole point of a pickup as a means of communication.

The history of the pickup truck basically began with a book called How to Get the Woman of Your Dreams into Bed. On the one hand, what's wrong if a man does everything to get you according to the canons of women's novels and vanilla melodramas?

With another…

A dream woman is far from an end in itself for a pick-up artist. And no, of course he doesn't want to drag you into bed right away. This can be postponed for a while.

Just meeting, communicating and seducing women for him is a lifestyle.

Many men claim to learn secrets, take lessons, and use different pickup techniques just to learn how to easily and naturally communicate with women.

I will not say that this skill is useless. It’s just a pity that they turn it most often against a woman. For them, these acquaintances end in disappointment and tears. He promises you Ararat, but in reality you get nothing.

To prevent this from happening, I will tell you how to recognize a pick-up artist and refuse him if you are not interested in one-time sex and

Myths about pickup trucks

For most men, the pickup technique has evolved into a fairly simple "quick pickup" method. For example, to the question of who a pickup master is, you can get answers from many:

• This is a student who, only because he is looking for an easy victim. He often uses free, basic tips for dummies from the net. Everything is logical here - he has no money yet, but he wants sex, and classmate Lyudka does not give in to his tricks. Myth.
• This may be a 30-year-old, he just does not want to spend money on a woman.
  His main goal is sex. Then the girl is no longer interested in him. For pikapers, the very process of capturing the victim is important, and sex is already a “reward” for the applied tricks and skills.
• This is a disturbed psycho. No, to disappoint you, but in many ways just men who are not looking now or at all.
• This is a lonely loser who is "not given". Again a delusion. Most often, this is a handsome man who succeeds in various fields.

In order not to bother you with too much, a pick-up artist is more about demeanor and lifestyle. No, this is not a separate "sort" of men - only a way to get what you want.

Of the known and obvious, there are two options: either no one pays attention to a man, or he had an unsuccessful relationship experience. Less often - if he is just bored.

At first, he learns to just get to know girls, practicing classic pickup techniques. And only then - he tests his skills on the possibility of putting you to bed before 3 dates.

When a man is bored, things are a little different. He can only learn some pickup tricks just to find a woman for

If after several attempts to get sex from a stranger, she refuses, then he gets bored and such a fighter is eliminated.

Only true pick-up artists remain, for whom the very process of seduction and “divorce” into incomprehensible relationships becomes a lifestyle.

Standard Pickup Rules

By the way, simple ones are enough - because they can be read in the actions of an inexperienced pick-up artist, but it is more difficult to notice with a professional one.

Spectacular output- the appearance of a pickup artist will always be random, extraordinary, make your eyes meet and always make you smile.

First impression- they attach special importance: therefore, they will make you believe in the magic of your meeting and smile, since a smile is the most sincere manifestation of interest

V dialog you will enter with him without noticing it. Like it or not, you yourself will not notice how easily and naturally a man will start a conversation on an abstract topic. Not even hinting at their true motives.

Then the pickup artist manifests genuine interest and concern: be gallant, offer help, hand, hold doors, etc. In general, it will lead you to the most sincere gratitude.

And the final chord -. Yes, the pick-up artist will be ready to get acquainted even when you come to the salon for hair removal, no matter how absurd it may sound.

But you will be convinced that fate brought you together and you correctly read the signs.

The main features of a pickup truck

Pickup trucks aren't that bad, I'll tell you. If for you the norm is sex for one time, then you can not bathe. The main thing is not to take noodles on your ears. So that the pickup truck is not who sat on your neck.

But if such a story is not about you, then I will now teach you how to calculate this type of men.

It's very simple only 5 signs. If a pickup truck is about demeanor, then we will pay attention to this parameter:

1. He is very attentive, talks little about himself, listens more.

2. He literally reads your thoughts and desires, and will say exactly what he hears.

3. He tries to influence psychologically: stare into the eyes, touch during the conversation. The beginning of communication is always unusual, for example, "What are you going to do tonight after dinner with me?".

4. The pickup artist is well-groomed, handsome and wears good perfume. He is self-confident, not embarrassed.

5. If there was no sex, he will definitely choose a place for the second meeting. And if you try to adjust it "for yourself", he will never agree.

And yes, they avoid meetings in status cafes, cinemas, restaurants, because they try to spend as little money as possible.

Even your hastily assembled bun or under-ironed blouse is sure to be noted with a compliment.

If the pick-up artist is already trained, it is unlikely that you will be able to identify him from the first minutes - everything will look very natural.

The perfect pickup victim

Remember: a pickup artist is a player. And he chooses the victim. No, he does not approach the first meeting, but he chooses well.

Yes, it's not your fault that you are distinguished by beauty, intelligence and availability of resources. But if you notice in yourself the qualities of the future Airborne Forces, you will be to blame if you do not immediately stop communicating with the pick-up artist.

In a long-term relationship, techniques do not go anywhere, but on the contrary, they increase. What does a relationship with a pickup artist lead to:

Psychological consequences. No, you won't go crazy. If he only targets strong and self-confident girls, then such strong personalities from time to time feel that they are suppressed.

And in order to get out of it all, from time to time she has a tantrum. Screams, tears out of the blue. A few years and from a strong personality there will be a rag that endures everything.

Material. Many pick-up artists with a serious face argue that taking money from a girl is not worthy of a member of the pick-up community. But come on, honey, let's face reality.

Girls in such relationships are free for him, for example, acting as a manager or giving expensive gifts, attracting customers to his business.

Social. Oh, this is the thinnest instrument. He creates the appearance (and only) that he is trying for you.

Well, and most importantly: all the techniques of pikaperstvo are aimed at lowering the self-esteem of girls. In general, a long-term relationship with such a man will not lead to anything good.

How to say "no" to a pickup artist?

"How's that 'no'? What if I can change it? Immediately - no. Changing a man - namely, wanting and achieving a goal - is a skill of a professional woman.

And then, the main thing in all this is the desire or unwillingness of a man. Remember, dear, that he likes to live like this, and all his techniques are his resources for life.

If he gives up everything, then he will have to develop, act and fight. But he does not know how and it is more convenient for him to strain another.

I've seen thousands of girls with vague ideas about relationships. It comes to some that it is necessary to change anyone by force. Yes, and it won't work.

If you understand that a pickup artist is trying to glue you together, remember the following tips:

• Ignore and don't express any emotion at all. Remember the sloppy ponytail and the hastily ironed shirt? He will give you amenities, and you pretend that he is simply not around. A couple of minutes and he will leave to look for another victim.

• Give him an unexpected comment in response from the series “Mom has been waiting for you for a long time, let's go, dear?”. He will be in a stupor, because he was counting on a smile and gratitude, but was refused - one of the most unpleasant moments for any man.
• Want to see how the game will play out? Just talk less about yourself and bombard him with questions. Insist on a date in an expensive cafe, emphasize that it matters to you. Pickup artists don't like spending money.

First of all, avoid any contact with such a man. Each meeting will break that line of adequate, which should not break.

Ordinary men?

Yes. They are distinguished only by their lifestyle: seduction, seduction and attraction of a woman. It is unlikely that it will be possible to change such a person, but getting rid of it is easy.

Share in the comments, did you have any experience with pick-up artists and how did it end? Or are you still trying to re-educate one of them?

Don't get hooked
your Yaroslav Samoilov.

It would seem, what a stupid question - take it, read something on a pickup truck, and learn! However, I want to warn you: do not take on faith everything that comes across to you, as this can lead you to a very unpleasant place, from which it is much more difficult to find a way out than to get there. You need to learn anything, especially relatively new pickup truck knowledge for mankind, with the mind. This means that you can’t rush to read everything in a row and practice the first thing that you like ... I hope this article will become for you a kind of guide to the world of knowledge about the pickup truck.

With a purpose for life.

To make your trip successful, first of all, no matter how difficult it is, try to choose the end point of the path. This means that you need to decide what you want from your acquaintance with a pickup truck, set a specific goal. I won't go into the details of goal setting right now, but I just want to focus your attention on the importance of the fact itself - you must have a goal! You can conditionally formulate several questions to which you must answer:

1. What do I want to become by studying a pickup truck?
2. What kind of relationship with girls do I want to achieve?

Qualitative answers to these questions will be, in fact, your goals. They will become your beacons that will help you deal with the shaft of information that is now available on the subject of a pickup truck. Also, from time to time, it's worth going back to your goals and asking yourself: what do i want?

Books, websites, forums.

If you have a goal, then it becomes much easier for you to operate with sources of information. For example, books on pickup and seduction usually have good titles, or announcements that are basically easy to relate to your goal. Some authors offer very original methods and methods of dating, seduction and self-development, but they may not be adequate for reconciliation with your goal.

Also, whichever book or website you choose, I advise you to be very selective in your study. That is, read only what is relevant to you at the moment. Devouring a book in a week is bad practice. As you know, knowledge is acquired very slowly, if there is no reinforcing practice. The same goes for forums. They are good because you can not only study problems similar to yours, but also ask questions that interest you and get qualified help. In some cases, you can get several different points of view on your problem, which allows you to choose the most appropriate one.

And if you really want to learn how to seduce, then you need to act like this:

1. Read an article or a chapter from a book.
2. Go practice and try to do what is written there.
3. If something doesn't work, come to the forum, describe what you did, and ask for advice.
4. Taking advice, again, try to put it into practice.

If you do not include practice in your training, then after a while of diligent reading, you will turn into a donkey loaded with books. By itself, knowledge of seduction is useless!

Accomplices, partners, pickup party.

A great idea is to get someone who shares your aspirations, values, or at least agrees to do something with you. It’s even cooler when such a person can become your partner and really help you meet girls, give feedback and guide you in your learning. But usually it requires a greater degree of development from a person than you do. This means that his interest in hanging out with you should be based not only on mutual benefit (since he gives you more than he takes), but on something more - for example, friendships, or mentoring (which is less common) ...

As a result, much more often it turns out that you have to hang out with approximately equals in development, which means with equally inexperienced people. This imposes a very large degree of responsibility on you to control what is happening. Because in any community, or even in a pair, the goals of the group or the stronger individuals of the group infect the rest of the participants. This means that there is a good chance of deviating from your own goals. And this is again a waste of time and effort. Remember your goals!

Training, consulting, coaching.

The fastest and most effective way to learn is under the supervision of specialists and experts not only in seduction, but also in learning. With any form of hired training, you can partially delegate the responsibility for the learning process to more experienced people. But, at the same time, it is still important not to forget about your goals, both at the stage of choosing a training, course, or a specialist in consulting and coaching, and during training. It would be a mistake to transfer all responsibility not only for the process of your development, but also for achieving the result.

However, with all the effectiveness, we should not forget that trainings, consulting and coaching are a commercial form of cooperation. Carefully find out what exactly they provide you as a service, and do not expect to receive a magic pill that will solve all your problems at once. Any training is like a gym membership: you are given the opportunity to build “muscles” in seduction under the supervision of experienced trainers, but the result depends on your efforts and discipline.

For those who are interested - our training "Successful Seducer".

instead of a conclusion.

Ideally, you should not only define the goal of pickup learning, but also outline a trajectory that includes familiarity with books, practice on your own and with a partner, as well as auxiliary training and sessions with coaches and consultants. This trajectory does not have to be perfect all at once, but you must remember that it is your responsibility to control both the end result and the path to get there.

Often men who do not have a particularly attractive appearance or material wealth, enjoy incredible success with women.

Popularity with the weaker sex depends more on the understanding of female psychology and the ability to apply their knowledge in practice.

Mastering the simple rules of a pickup truck will also help you learn how to handle women.

How to get out of the friendzone? Learn about it from ours.

What is a pickup for?

The term "pickup" means type of activity aimed at getting to know with the opposite sex in order to seduce and to obtain the knowledge and practical skills necessary for this.

Nowadays, there are quite a few trainings that aim to educate clients on the basic pickup methods and techniques.

Such training includes not only the theoretical part, but also workshops.

Learning Pickup Techniques allows men to solve the following problems:

• learn to meet women;
• develop skills for building effective communication;
• understand female psychology;
• learn to quickly seduce the object you like.

In practice, the main goal is precisely the acquisition of skills to quickly seduce the women you like. In fact, pick-up artists strive to have sexual contact without any extra effort and time.

The basis of the doctrine

The founder of the doctrine is considered American writer Ross Jeffries, who wrote the 1992 book How to Get the Woman of Your Dreams into Bed.

It was Jeffreys who founded the very first seduction seminar. He later held a conference on a similar topic.

The writer substantiated to some extent the consumer attitude towards women from the outset inequality between the sexes.

In his opinion, even the most unattractive woman who demonstrates her willingness to have sexual intercourse will find herself a partner without any problems.

This may not be the most handsome and not the most successful man, but he anyway there is.

For a man to quickly enter into an easy relationship with a woman in the absence of an attractive appearance, wealth and charm, he has to work hard.

Negative side

The pickup has rational grain He helps insecure men learn how to meet women and communicate with them.

These skills can help you impress the girl you like and start a relationship with her.

In reality, pickup training often promotes enough immoral lifestyle.

A man learns to endlessly seduce women, acting as a soulless object for him. And the more goals you achieve, the better.

As a result, such a consumer attitude towards the opposite sex leads to the following negative consequences:

• development, which manifests itself in open disregard for existing norms of morality and morality;
• causing moral suffering to women who may misinterpret the attitude of a pick-up artist towards them and in the future it is difficult to experience a breakup;
• the risk of missing out on a really promising relationship with the right woman in pursuit of new victories;
• fast satiety from the constant change of non-committal contacts, which is guaranteed to cause a feeling of boredom;
• low quality of life experience gained from such fleeting relationships without emotional involvement;
• loss of the ability to express sincere feelings, experiences, sympathies.

Techniques

The pickup technique includes a series of sequential actions:

Mystery Methods

The world's most popular Erik von Markowic's pickup methods, better known as Mystery. This is a Canadian figure who created a system called the Mystery Method. In the pickup community, this system has gained a lot of popularity.

Demonstration of social value

Mystery attributed the success of individual men to the ability to demonstrate their social value.

In his opinion, the biological value of men, which is an attractive appearance and good health, doesn't really matter to women.

Much more attention they pay attention to social signs:

• financial security;
• leadership skills;
• self confidence;
• power.

The Mystery method is to seduce women by demonstration of socially significant behavior.

Moreover, it does not matter what qualities a man actually possesses, the behavior he demonstrates is much more important.

If he looks like a woman strong, confident and successful, then she will follow him without delay. And the real picture will be revealed when it is already too late.

linear seduction

Every woman in the process of being attracted to a man experiences three states: interest, trust, excitement.

It is important to take her through these three stages and get what she wants in the end.

Interest arises after a man demonstrates a high social value.

This takes several minutes. To build trust, you need to spend at least 4-10 hours together. Required during communication demonstrate openness, friendliness, interest.

Some kind of joint process that requires combining efforts helps to achieve a quick effect. Emotional rapprochement and constant unobtrusive touches lead to the appearance of arousal.

The game

Pickup is the game. It is necessary to perceive the whole process from this point of view. Trying to meet a girl is a start.

Receiving a refusal is a restart and a reason to start the game over again in another place. No worries, resentment, disappointments.

Lessons

The following real-life examples demonstrate the basic principles of a pickup truck for guys in action:

Examples of messages on the network to a girl

Original - a win-win to strike up a relationship with a woman you like.

You can use one of the following examples welcome phrases:

1. What do you think a man should write to a woman he likes so as not to be rejected?
2. Hello, what shoe size do you wear? ………38… Well, we got to know each other!
3. Hey! I am one of those who think you are very beautiful.
4. I've never met like this before.
5. The Constitution says that each of us has the right to happiness.
6. For the second day I come up with an original way to get to know you, but nothing happens.

Precautionary measures

Putting into practice methods of seduction, a pickup artist don't forget to take precautions:

• contacts should not be given importance;
• you should not enter into relationships with overly emotional women, with whom serious problems may arise when parting;
• having discovered nascent feelings for the object, you should immediately stop communication;
• if it has time to arise, you should stop and make the right decision.

Pickup techniques are a real salvation for insecure men who do not know how to win over the fair sex.

Proper application of pickup techniques to achieve a specific goal help you succeed.

5 pickup rules: