In disadvantaged families, unfavorable children grow up. It is believed that the house is a place where they love without any conditions where it will never harm. And in life very often turns out the contrary. The house turns into a place where the closest becomes enemies - dad hits mom, parents show aggressiveness and child defenseless.

Children in such families are dreaming only about one - to grow as soon as possible, become strong, not depend on parents. And one day - give delivery in response or escape, never returning. So that you never give myself offense and finally gain peace of mind that they were deprived of them in childhood.

Does the child can fully develop where the swearing is poured? Is it possible to think about your homework if the heart is constantly pounding from fear? The brain is busy with others - how to protect yourself this evening. So children have to become too early to become adults. And, as Yuri Bollan shows on the training "System-vector psychology," - always defective adults. After all, their psyche does not give conditions and time to mature and strengthen.

Mom, protect me

It is naive to think that without seeing like dad beats mom, the child does not get injury. He feels everything, understands what is happening.

The fact is that the child receives its mother security. She, as a dome, shelters from all storms and adversity of the outside world, creating conditions for favorable development. Up to six years, the child is associated with the mother of the invisible umbilical cord. The mental state of the mother directly affects the condition of the child.

And what if dad hits mom? Training "System and Vector Psychology" reveals the process of influence such relations in the family to form a child's personality. Any violation in the behavior of the child primarily depends on how mother feels.

If it is anxietary for tomorrow's objective reasons for tomorrow, does not receive support from her husband, loses the inner calm, and the child loses it with it. Mother shakes - shaking and child. The child begins to hide, behave inadequately, aggressively, annoy his behavior.

Strong stress breaks a nursery psyche

Moderate pressure is necessary for the development of the child, but the ultrastrass inhibits psychosexual development. Green torn cherry will never be ripe and sweet. So with the psyche of the child. Each person is born with undeveloped properties and in the development process is growing to a certain level.

If the feeling of security and safety is lost from the mother, then the child does not have it too. And if the stage is missing, it is no longer restored.

When a child is experiencing a superstand, the psyche tries to keep himself, reducing contact with the outside world. After all, the outside world brings too strong pain. Permanent quarrels, outbreaks of anger, disadvantage, fights. Too rough, too unfair. And everyone saves, as may, by virtue of their mental properties specified by nature.

It is important to understand that the appearance of the psyche of the child will react according to congenital properties. By definition of system-vector psychology - vectors.

Dad, do not bay mom

A child with a sound vector can choose the Escape "to Himself", plunge into his own world. To remove, abstract from what is happening. To convince yourself that it all happens not with him, observe what is happening as a non-living picture in a computer game.

A child with a visual vector can fall vision, protecting his main sensor from horror around. And instead of education of feelings in the child, worried, the emotional susceptibility is lost.

If Dad beat mom, the girl in the subconsciousness may remain alertness in relation to men for life. Next to the man, she will lose his sincere equilibrium, and not acquire it. It can negatively influence its relationship with a man. The feeling of hopelessness, when the child does not find the strength to resist violence next to him, violates the natural development of a children's psyche in adulthood.

Instead of doctors, educators, scientists and other socially successful people cultivate rapists, prostitutes, thieves. Unfortunate unrealized life. That's what we make when a child loses a sense of security and security.

Good word Sogray me

A child subconsciously, like a suburban mouse, seeks to find those who will defend him will be his family. Its new family can become criminal teenage groups, where the same as he, a member of injustice, are trying to become a support for each other, to confront hostility with which one happened.

But it happens differently. A positive scenario in the life of a child is possible. A kind view, several phrases with understanding, sincerity, timely and necessary to him words are invaluable support.

Also a good book, which teaches compassion, is a window through which the child sees another world. The world where love lives.

Confidence in the future

Even in the most difficult conditions, you have the opportunity to ensure a sense of security to your child. Even if you cannot solve all family problems right now, your child needs mom who knows what he needs, and is able to give it. And let you believed that the fight or the swearing behind the wall would not harm the baby, - now you know that this opinion is mistaken.

In other articles of this project (MV Svetlana Kim Victoria Sevenibrate Violence in Society Introduction) You can find answers to the question - what dad beats mom and why. And in this article we wanted to convey to you thought: only the future of the child depends on you. After all, there is no worst penalty for the mother than to see that her child is sick or deeply unhappy.

To become a support for your child and give it the opportunity to grow happy - find out who grows next to you. Elementary safety rules are capable of committing a miracle.

Start understanding the causal relationships of what is happening. Even one understanding will give you new tools to build personal happiness and future of your children. Take the first step - right now register on the free online training of Yuri Bourna "System and Vector Psychology" by reference.

The article is written using the materials of online trainings Yuri Burlan "System and Vector Psychology"

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Jokes in the distance

***
The man went to the girl and says:
- Girl, do you have a comb?
- Yes.
- Then Cheryu from here.

***
- What do you do the doctor? I needed to pull a completely different tooth!
- Calm down (yawning), dear, gradually I will get to him!

***
- Well, you're, yes! You do not understand that I have half
Salary goes to your toilets?
- Strange, where is the other half?

***
Frenchman arrived in Greece. There he met cute
Greeks. They dined together. The hosts offered a guest aperitif. Barely
Parisian dried up a glass, as he felt that the walls and the ceiling were floating.
In order not to fall, he grabbed the chair.
- Well well! What is a strong aperitif!
- This is not aperitif, just began a small earthquake.

***
Adam walks in paradise, boring him. Suddenly God appears:
- Listen, I came up with a cool thing for you! Called "woman".
Will love you, eat and chew, perform all whims, create
Maximum comfort, everything will be able to, beautiful will be smart, always understand,
Always help, sexual plan something incredible ...
- Wow, great!
- Yes, but only for this I will need your hand and your foot.
- GM ... Listen, God, and nothing will happen from the rib?

***
Muller somehow called Stirlitz to the bar in the hope of setting it on
Mug of beer. However, Stirlitz began to tell such interesting jokes
About the Fuhrera that Muller was heard and accidentally paid. "Still
Brilliant agent This Stirlitz, - thought Muller. - What a clean work! ".
More Muller did not call the Stirlitz drinking beer, and if he accidentally met him in
Bar, then did the view that he would not know.

***
"When the house caught fire, I flew into the room and made a mother-in-law in his arms."
- Yes, in such circumstances it is easy to lose his head.

According to statistics, one of four people - the mentally ill. Think about your three friends ... if they are fine, it means that you are.

The man is interested in its future, and the woman is his past.

Message:
At 3 o'clock in the morning (everything is sleeping Stopedovo): You are strange, do not sleep, I sleep very well.
At 6 in the morning (if everyone fell asleep, they did not yet woke up): Are you sure about there? And then I have already slept for 4 hours and I advise you.

Sits in a restaurant at the table a big boss and admires the diploma of the candidate of science. Fit the waitress, accepts an order and, as if by chance, asks:
- What, bought?
And that is offended:
- What immediately bought?! Friends presented!

Message:
You have never thought about why in childhood the boys lick her lips, and girls suck fingers!?

According to statistics, 17% of accidents occurs due to the fault of drivers in a drunken state. Consequently, the overwhelming majority of accidents (83%) occurs due to the fault of sober drivers.

A new captain appointed to the ship was appointed
To the team with such words: - I want everyone to understand,
that this ship is not
My and not yours. This ship is our ship. From the rear
Rows There was a voice: - Let's get it then!

In Brooklyn on Brighton - Beach one blurred Odessa opened
A small cheapest restaurant for just coming emigrants.
The first visitors were amazed by a terminated waiter -
The Chinese, who Boyko explained to Hebrew. The owner asked: -
Where did you get the Chinese, talking in pure Hebrew? - we are us
taught, - said the owner - but just do not tell him - he thinks that
This is English. -

Three defendants are sitting in the chamber. They are in turn you are to lead to court.
The first is coming back. - Five years. The second comes. - Eight. The third.
- Tower. Probably I will guard you.

New asks the prison warder: - And the lattices on
windows why? - For reliability. - Stupidity. That in such
Can I steal prison?

Rabinovich went to the States. In a month calls native
From New York: - Everything is fine. Got a job and very close.
Some half an hour drive. - On the
Metro? - Not. On the elevator.

On the street, I barely barely goes old Rabinovich. He scream: - Rabinovich,
How is your health? - Do not wait!

The man fell ill with influenza. The wife gathering him to roll a drop in the nose, went with his son to the room, waiting until he wakes up. Son, whisper:

Ma, what are you waiting for? Pump up while sleeping.

Man, through a dream:

Early, I am digging - the body has not yet cooled ...

Right in one coupe ebony and a Jew. Negro unfolds a newspaper in Hebrew and begins to read it attentively. Jew for some time in a state of complete frustration, all this contemplates and finally issues:

Of course, I apologize wildly, but you have a little sho, are you ebony?

An American gets from the refrigerator the last bottle of vodka and asks Russian:

Will UU?

I am to you, b *** b, catch!

Abram - Moyshe: - I will have a search to hold my money in my safe.

Moisha: - Wife, Children here! You see the neighbor came, the money brought, I took them, recalculated, closed in the safe!

Wife and children: - Yes, yes, we see.

A week later Abram again comes to his neighbor.

Abram: - Thank you, the search passed, did not find anything, please return money.

Moisha: - Wife, Children here! To us a neighbor week ago money brought money?

Wife and children: - No!

I took them, recalculated, put in the safe? Wife and children: - No! Not!

Moishes opens a safe and gives all the money to Abram.

Abram, perplexed: - And this performance is why?

Moisha: - And to see with what bastards have to live!

The Minister of Education passed all the exam, the Minister of Health defended his turn to the clinic, and only then the pensioner Claudius Vasilyevna let go of a goldfish.

2 guys choose beer ... Chose the beer "Goat" approached the checkout: Guys: two goats! Saleswoman: I see. .)

***
One, about which rumors went, which he lost the reason,
said:
- If you want to be happy, then you always say: "Not
I know, "because if you say:" I know everything, "you will be killed
What do not really know anything.

***
The lady turns to Senor, sitting with her for one
face:
- If you were my husband, I would not allow you
Wear a medal for courage.
- Why, let me ask?
- I consider funny and ridiculous to show people that one
Day in life you were a blade.
- in this case, why do you allow your husband
Sit Wedding Ring?

***
Wife says to her husband:
- My dear, and you know that the word, "kangaroo" in language
Aboriginal means "I do not understand" ...
- Yes, I read somewhere ...
- Favorite, I looked after a wonderful puppy with a luxury
Noah pedigree. But for this I need five thousand dollars ...
"Kangaroo," the husband said and buried in the newspaper.

***
Husband returns late at night home and tells his wife:
- You never guess where I was, dear!
- I guess, but first I would like to hear your
version.

***
Notary reads the family of the late Testament:
- Being a right mind, I spent all the money before my death ...

***
Wife says to her husband, a big beer fan:
- You do not regret your kidneys, pity at least me. So,
Choose: or me, or beer!
The husband thought, scratched the head and asked:
- And how much is beer?

***
Pole, who visited the USSR, asked how he likes the first
Country of the Socialist Camp.
- I like it, - he answered, - but I like my barak
more!

***
In 1965, the inhabitants of Odessa appealed to the Central Committee with a request to return
Khrushchev: Better than ten years without bread than a year without jokes.

***
- Well, you have dirty legs, Vasily Ivanovich, even dirty
My!
- So I'm older than you, Petka!

***
Military communism. The exchange of telegrams between Sarah and her
Husband in the Red Army:
"There should be potatoes. No one to throw the garden."
"Do not learn. In the garden buried a machine gun."
"Chekists came. Switched the whole garden."
"Saw Potatoes."

***
Worker ask whether they have a good condition at the factory
Work.
- hard, but we take out!

***
To the question of the questionnaire, whether you were fluent in the party of the party,
Rabinovich replied: "hesitated along with the line."

Recently stumbled upon Facebook on a funny picture. Smiled. Dried. Forgot. Normally.
Then he remembered. I was looking for Twisted tape in three days.
Because it seemed that the picture was important.
Here she is:

It seemed important to me that in addition to the presence of some unhealthy reactions about "dad", "Mom" and "Grandma" you can make another conclusion.
In order:
I think that there is not enough one section on the left - as it really was. In fact, the "dad" threw the child for five centimeters, but it seemed to him that half meter. Because still stiffly - suddenly you can't catch, and the fear of the eyes are great. But the "Pope" in life is a lot of cases and sources of impressions - Hase that he does there - fishing, football, a lot of work, cars, a scooter, cacti collection? Friends, colleagues, girls? .. His world is relatively wide and he throws a child to gain positive emotions with him. She is not looking for sensations in this process. He does not consider the birth of a child as an adrenaline sport, he has other sources of impressions.

The reaction of the "child" is largely determined by its growth, he used to see the land from a distance of a little more than half a meter and being at an altitude of 2.50 believes that the earth is very far away - and here it is also a little straight again. For a "child" such drops are a powerful source of impressions - imagine if someone threw up to a height of 3 of your height - that is, five meters. The hypertrophied perception of what is happening from the "child" is determined in many ways.

The reaction of "Moms" is a consequence of the fact that the world for it is almost completely lies in the "child". She has no her life. She subdued all his interests and desires about the "child" and made it the center of the world. Everything happens to him is the main source of impressions. And without impressions, a person can not, he is silent without impressions. Therefore, everything that happens to the "child", "Mom" will perceive hypertrophies.

It seems that the right picture - the one where the perception of "grandmother". Is the "child" for her "the center of the world? Not. She already raised his own, "laughing" maternal instinct. Her perceptions are due to completely and unequivocally the fact that she simply has nothing to do. Her life of Tup and is boring, and the desire of impressions is not less than that of the "dad" or "child". And the search for a source of impressions among the surrounding reality begins. This with an equal share of the likelihood may be the newspaper "Life", the next show on the first channel or "dad", which throws up a "baby". If you want to worry about the reason you can always find.

A person has the desire of impressions and he must implement this desire daily. Each has its own dose, its volume needed for comfortable self-assumption. Someone needs extreme sports, someone sufficiently fell into fallen leaves. Without receiving impressions from sufficient saturation of life with interesting, pleasant events, a person begins to think of themselves, suck out the poor surrounding reality. As a lonely prisoner can experience the whole range of senses to a mouse, sometimes crawling from the gap - friendlyness, sympathy, misstitution, insult, jealousy - can "see" all human qualities - mind, playfulness, funny temper, or on the contrary, thoughtfulness and tendency to depression; For this, the sacrifice of the mouse will be the only source of impressions and he will squeeze all his dose from it. So and the "grandmother" from the picture above, without having his life, is trying to live someone else, turning her at his own desire in a detective or series. So and "Mom" from the picture above, which mother instincts do not allow to distract from the "child" - makes it the main source of impressions. So we all look for impressions in contacts with the surrounding people. And what seems to me with important: it is important - do not fuck people brain in favor of their impressions.
Worried that the husband is delayed longer than usual? Strains that the wife is late in the evening come? Would you like to read the son-winning records in the Son on social networks? And the rolling truck and the winged rocket at the temple do not mercy yet?
If you are worried about someone if jealousy prevents living if you want to control someone's life, staying her for someone - maybe just search for more positive sources of impressions? Buy a motorcycle, jump with a parachute, do martial arts, sowing with fallen leaves to get acquainted with the new girl - or a boy - who do you like there?